Now dating sites are growing like mushrooms after rain, becoming more popular every year, and more and more young people prefer to meet online. What are the pros and cons of this trend?
The pluses of this trend include the fact that dating has become more accessible. Without meeting in real life, you can find suitable candidates and communicate, getting to know each person better. This is an absolute plus for a city dweller, who, as a rule, has a shortage of time for dating.
To this we can add that every year the number of couples who met through the Internet is growing.
Surely there are similar examples among your friends.
But there are also big disadvantages here:
1. In communication via the Internet, a lot of information is lost in comparison with real communication.
A lot of information is carried by gestures, facial expressions, gaze, intonation, voice and other non-verbal manifestations of a person. Often these manifestations are used to determine the basic psychological compatibility. When communicating, you can really feel if you are comfortable with a person or if there is something annoying. These factors can be decisive when living together.
2. Most of the courtship period takes place virtually.
Courtship is an important stage in forming a relationship. If it goes crumpled, then the partners cannot recognize the manifestations of each other in many situations, for example, whether the partner knows how to take care, sacrifice something for another. It is also important to look from the outside how your partner interacts with other people, how he manifests himself, because how a person behaves with other people, so can behave with you.
3. People for the most part communicate with a fictitious way, and not with a real person.
Since communication is based on a scanty amount of information, we ourselves begin to come up with a lot of things, attribute them to a partner and believe that he has some qualities that in fact are not. You can also create the illusion that there is some kind of positive quality, for example, kindness or integrity. In real communication, it would immediately become clear that this is an illusion, but in an online relationship, such an illusion can be maintained for a very long time.
4. Internet communication is time consuming.
Virtual communication takes a lot of time, while a real meeting in many cases immediately puts everything in its place. While we are building virtual images, waiting and wasting time, the very first meeting often gives an answer to the question whether this is my person or not.
So, we conclude that communication via the Internet can develop into strong feelings only if it is followed quickly enough by communication in reality.
