Envy - who doesn't know this feeling? Nightmare, overwhelming and exciting, it is even considered a mortal sin. In China, envy was called "red eye disease", in ancient Rome they said that a person "turned blue with envy", and in Russia they say "turned green." But how much can it be considered an innate quality?
What is envy
When a person feels envy, he clearly experiences his own imperfection. We can say that he feels a grudge against himself. When someone is better at everything than you, when you feel that the success and achievements of another person should go to you (after all, you deserve it!), You feel terrible.
It is believed that there is "white" and "black" envy. White is when you are jealous, but happy. But this is a misunderstanding of the nature of envy. There is no white envy, if you are happy for another person, then you feel admiration. This is a good feeling that inspires you to your own accomplishments. Jealousy is always depleted. It's over, you can feel these two feelings at the same time.
It is important to note that the presence of envy is due to the fact that a person has a rather high opinion of himself. He really feels that these achievements are within his reach, and it may well be that this is so. And jealousy is also a marker. When you feel it, it clearly shows you where you, deep down, want to aim.
Is this feeling innate or acquired?
This question cannot be answered unequivocally. Each position has both supporters and opponents. Someone thinks that the tendency to envy is genetic in nature. Some go even further, believing that envy is hardwired into the human genome. They say that only those who were jealous tried to move forward and ultimately evolved.
Others believe that the first shoots of envy appear in the soul of a child when parents compare him with peers, wanting to spark interest in his studies or other achievements. The child is dissatisfied with himself, he compares himself with others and begins to feel envy.
But it is definitely noticed that envy weakens with age. For older people, certain things that have aroused their genuine interest in the past become less important. This suggests that envy can be dealt with. Even if it is an innate quality, it can be controlled and worked with.
Self-confidence
It is likely that the tendency to envy is directly related to self-confidence. And although the question of how innate this quality is, there is no clear answer. However, there is a solution that works for sure. Increasing self-confidence gives you an understanding that it is your path that is right for you, which means that it is pointless to envy, since other people's achievements have nothing to do with your own.
Self-improvement and the ability to achieve your goals can also save you from envy. If you can do all this, then why envy? All that remains is to admire and rejoice for others.
