What haunts us day and night? What provokes aggression, depression and gives rise to some complexes? What can destroy even the strongest friendship? Meet Her Majesty Envy!
Not only is envy one of the seven deadly sins, but it is also, unfortunately, one of the most common emotions that literally destroys human nature, so maybe it's time to get rid of envy. The path of healing may be thorny and difficult, but it will be worth it.
The first step in solving a problem is realizing it. Admit to yourself honestly that you are jealous of this or that person, and then try to understand why you feel such emotions in relation to him? Most likely, he has something that you do not have, or he does something much better than you. So what's stopping you from becoming more perfect? Work on yourself. Channel envy on the right track. Let other people's achievements turn into your own goal. So you will immediately kill two birds with one stone - and get rid of envy and achieve certain results in one field or another, and maybe even surpass your rival and subsequently yourself.
Of course, it is much easier to complain about life and look for an excuse for your behavior, drowning more and more in your laziness and getting lost among your own fears. Nobody said it would be easy. As one of the Chinese proverbs says, "the road of 1000 li begins with the first step." So do it already.
On the other hand, stop constantly comparing yourself to others. Give your full attention to your personality traits and accomplishments. Just do not flirt too much, otherwise you will have to get rid of pride or narcissism. Surely, you have at least one merit, although, most likely, there are many more. So develop them. There are many examples of the transformation of an ugly duckling into a beautiful swan in history.
Third, stay as far away from people who are constantly jealous as possible. As the saying goes, a bad example is contagious.
Fourth, learn to be truly happy for those around you. We respond so easily to a request for help when friends are known in trouble, and we react very skeptically when someone is known in joy.
