Trust is such a fragile matter that it will be very difficult for a person who has lost it once to return it. Betrayal, disappointment, tears - hardly anyone wants to experience them over and over again, so people subconsciously stop trusting the one who caused them such pain.
Instructions
Step 1
Let the strongest and brightest emotions subside first. If you are betrayed, the heartache will not go away until you yourself want it. Stop constantly replaying the trouble that happened in your head - it won't get any easier. But if you mentally "let go" of the problem and try to recover as soon as possible, you will spend much less nerves. Do you still want to give an outlet to the accumulated negative? One day is enough for you - during it, feel sorry for yourself, cry as much as you like, seize grief with your favorite chocolate and watch melodramas. In the morning it will be much easier for you. At least you will be able to think soberly, which is already good.
Step 2
Analyze the current situation - could you yourself be guilty of betrayal? If a wife is constantly nagging her husband, pestering her with ridiculous suspicions and trying to control him, how can the betrayal be called unexpected and accidental? Well, if you constantly deceived your friends, considering yourself smarter, why are you surprised if they outwitted you? There is nothing strange about this. How do you start to trust in such cases? Not only in the conflict, but also in any treacherous act, both sides can be to blame. Admit it to yourself.
Step 3
Trust in relationships between people does not arise overnight. In order for such a feeling to manifest itself to a person, it is necessary to go with him through fire, water and copper pipes, to face many problems and jointly solve them, so that there is a strong feeling of confidence that a helping hand will always be extended to you. It is especially difficult to regain previously lost trust. But, if you see that the person sincerely repented that he hurt you and, realizing his mistakes, will not repeat them again, think about forgiving him and starting all over again. Just do not try to periodically remind him of what happened - it is better then not to continue communication at all. Mutual reproaches and hidden grievances will sooner or later bring everything to nothing.
