In the context of psychotherapy, an unfinished gestalt (from German gestalt - form, appearance, image) is an unmet need seeking satisfaction or some other way out. The increasing tension from dissatisfaction prompts a person to take actions that bring the realization of a given need closer. After the natural completion of the gestalt, "free space" appears for the formation of new ones.
With the healthy functioning of the psyche, incomplete gestalts stimulate certain behavior, give an impulse for some action. However, in cases of impaired self-regulation, some needs are interrupted and remain chronically incomplete, which leads to constant stress. Under the burden of unfinished gestalt, a person becomes incapable of realizing and actualizing new, significant needs. An unfinished gestalt is a chain that binds a person to certain people, events, places and life moments. People with unfinished situations try to complete them with other people, in other relationships, causing a lot of inconvenience to others and making themselves unhappy. Human nature is characterized by the desire for completeness of actions, a sense of integrity and tranquility. From time to time, it makes sense to wonder if you are losing your unfinished gestalts in relationships with people by imposing on innocent citizens the roles required for your performance. You may be unhappy with some previous relationship in your life, subconsciously returning it over and over again in order to try to complete and fill the hole that once formed. Incompleteness arises from emotions that do not find expression - love, guilt, regret for something missed. If you fail to fulfill your emotional need in time and properly, this chain will close. Mentally returning to situations and events of the past, you experience the discomfort of unfinished gestalt. All of this blocks your actions, being a hotbed of chronic tension, anxiety and displeasure. It is not always easy to forgive a person with whom you have something connected, to forget him and to let go. Emotional attachment, however unconscious, can persist for a long time. And unfinished actions, in turn, feed on neuroses, insomnia, stress and unnecessary experiences, incapacitating you and depriving you of the ability to concentrate. As the English writer and philosopher Oscar Wilde aptly noted, in order to overcome temptation, you need to succumb to it. It is quite possible to constructively complete the needs of the distant (or not very distant) past. Replay these circumstances mentally or with other people who will be aware of what you need. Tell someone about your needs and fantasize about how it might actually end. If you manage to accept things as they are, or become indifferent to them, this is also a good option for completing the gestalt.
