The best friend is a stylist, psychotherapist and lawyer all rolled into one. A close relationship is difficult to imagine without resentment and quarrels. Only true friends who value each other can overcome these differences.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to objectively assess what exactly hurts you in the words or actions of your friend. Does she criticize you in front of strangers? Making an appointment and not coming, forgetting to warn about it? Flirting openly with your boyfriend? If such situations happen with frightening regularity, you can safely state the fact - this girl is not your friend. And only one thing is not clear - for the sake of what it is necessary to endure insults and humiliation?
Step 2
Talk to your friend honestly. You can't keep grudges in yourself. Calmly explain to your friend what exactly does not suit you in the relationship. Perhaps you just see the same situation differently. “You are like a fat cow in this dress,” she said of your purchase. You considered this a humiliation. And she sincerely believes that she did a good deed by pointing out your shortcomings. Does she actively communicate with a young man you like, stroking her pumped biceps with admiration and asks him to help with the move? Hearing your dissatisfaction with this behavior, your friend may be genuinely surprised. She thought she was making you feel good by making friends with your boyfriend. You may not know all this if you do not dare to openly talk. The popular wisdom that a word is silver and silence is gold does not work in this case.
Step 3
After making your complaint, look at your friend's reaction. She waved it off with a snort of displeasure? Laughed and advised you not to bother? It's strange that after all this, you continue to consider her a friend. For her, your displeasure is an empty phrase. True friends are valuable because they listen to each other's opinions. You can consider her as your best friend. And she perceives you only as a neighbor on the desk, from whom you can write off lectures.
Step 4
Answer for yourself the question: "Why do I endure humiliation?" Perhaps you think that she is better than you in everything. She dresses fashionably, studies better, earns more, is always surrounded by fans. And at the same time he borrows money, forgetting to return it. In the presence of strangers, makes fun of your appearance or habits. Maybe one can leave the club where you came together, without deigning to warn. If you are ready to continue to endure such humiliation, there is a psychological dependence. It is like the sun to you. When you are near the sun, you can only be a pale moon.
Step 5
See a psychologist if you are unable to end your relationship with the person who humiliates you on your own. Perhaps a psychologist will identify you with a tendency to masochism or fear of loneliness.
