The relationship between parents and children sometimes becomes difficult, there is a misunderstanding, mutual resentment, the child stops sharing the news of his life with his parents. In this situation, it is important to restore the lost understanding, to try to become a real friend to the child.
Instructions
Step 1
In the relationship between the child and the parents, the leading role is, of course, taken by his dad and mom. It is they who establish the rules, teach the child to communicate, learn about the world, understand it. And they also need to take initiative in communication in order to become true friends to their children.
Step 2
It often happens that parents are sure: it is impossible to be friends with children, otherwise they will not perceive their father and mother as an authority, they will cease to obey and respect. Such parents prefer authoritarian behavior: the child must meekly fulfill the requests and orders of adults, know his place. Friendship in such a family is out of the question. But what if you understand that a child is the same full-fledged person like his parents, he wants love, affection and understanding. He is not at all a machine for obeying meekly and not having an opinion of his own.
Step 3
Understanding this, realizing that a child is a separate person, with his thoughts, dreams, troubles and sorrows, his desires and ideas about the world is the first step towards being his friend. Children and parents are not equal in rights and responsibilities, and yet this cannot prevent them from making friends, sharing their mood, and being support for each other in a difficult situation.
Step 4
In no case should children be allowed to be considered someone lower than adults, to point out to them their ignorance, inability to do something. Even if the child has not yet learned how to do homework, homework, or other tasks perfectly, it is an opportunity for a parent to support the child, help him to believe in himself, give prompts and praise when he starts to do better.
Step 5
The second important decision that a parent must make is to be frank: to tell the child everything and listen to him in any situation, without blaming him, without taking out his anger or fatigue on him, but understanding his feelings. Close contact with a little person is very important for establishing contact and trust between you, because this means that the child trusts you, you have common topics for conversation, you both are interested in what is happening in the life of the other. This is the beginning of friendship.
Step 6
In order for your child to become more honest, answer your questions and share experiences, you need to show him the same pattern of behavior. That is, a parent should initially show interest in the life of children and tell himself what is happening with him. After that, there will no longer be a problem to learn about the experiences and impressions of even the most closed and shy child. In this regard, it is more difficult with adolescents than with children of preschool and primary school age, but if you show patience, even adolescents will begin to talk frankly with their parents and become their friends.
