Unfortunately, sad events happen in life. When trouble happens to someone you know or someone is in deep grief from an unbearable loss, you want to express sympathy, help the person not to break down, and support him in difficult times. But not everyone knows how and knows what words to choose to express their feelings, whether it will be appropriate, etc.
Necessary
Phone, internet, pen, paper
Instructions
Step 1
Express your sympathy sincerely. The person will have to go through suffering, give him sincere attention. Express your willingness to help him. As a rule, laconic speech from the heart is much more effective than regular phrases. Such words are soothing and healing.
Step 2
Express empathy in person at the earliest opportunity. If you are unable to do this, write a letter. You don't need to choose a special moment or day for this. Write from the heart, without unnecessary phrases and emotions. Express your willingness to help, support your loved one.
Step 3
Be sure to ask permission to call or meet. This will help the person to get rid of the feeling that nothing else depends on him. You will help him regain faith in himself and in his worth, give him confidence. In this case, it is better to use such questions: "can I call you tomorrow?" or "can I drive up to you the other day?"
Step 4
Don't lose touch with someone who needs empathy, even if they don't want to see anyone. When a person is depressed and prefers to cope with their situation on their own, this does not mean at all that they do not need help. Be sure to find a reason to contact him. Use an answering machine, text messages, write a letter, seek help from neighbors. Just do not leave the person alone with you in this difficult situation. However, remember that excessive and overly intrusive attention is also inappropriate. Be discreet and considerate.
Step 5
Switch the person's attention to positive connections with the event. In conversation, accentuate the bright moments of the past. When talking about the future, try to maintain a person's self-confidence. Reinforce those moments when the person calms down. Focus his attention on them more often. Try to persuade him to go somewhere together. This will help distract yourself from unpleasant thoughts.
