Everyone has an inner judge, the only difference is that for some he is cold-blooded and impartial, while for others, on the contrary, he is soft and loyal. Paradoxical as it may seem, talking to yourself is sometimes the most difficult. Usually, what we are trying to teach is the most important thing for ourselves to learn. But the simplest questions sometimes turn out to be the most difficult. You need to start with understanding.
Instructions
Step 1
What is the spirit of contradiction? No matter how trite it may sound, but feelings show us what our soul wants much earlier than we have time to think about it. The urge to argue or disagree has the same roots. As soon as there is a feeling that they are trying to impose their will on us, the instinct of self-preservation is triggered, and a defensive program is turned on. On the contrary, when the proposed option coincides with the internal needs and desires, we easily make contact, show a willingness to give in and support the idea. However, along with ordinary everyday situations, there are cases when the need to act in one way or another is due not to our needs, but to such a word as "must". It's okay to act mundane, but only if you don't feel mundane. Before making any decision, think about who needs it, and who said that it should be so? Life will change only if you first imagine it the way you want to see it. Learn to say no to others and to say yes to life.
Step 2
We always talk about what we want. The flip side of the spirit of contradiction is the desire to preserve the semblance of the world in any way. However, a bad peace is not always better than a good quarrel. One way or another, sooner or later the boiling point comes, and that's when we give out the whole truth. Then we wonder what this has come over us, not otherwise than a lunar eclipse, magnetic storms, increased pressure, or should we drink less? Everything is much simpler.
Not a single person will ever say what he does not think, even when he is drunk. Christ said: "wine strengthens the soul." It's just that usually, due to upbringing, we are silent about many things, hide and try to be gentle and courteous. But that which is hidden and suppressed does not go anywhere. Negative emotions, accumulating like interest in a bank account, are just waiting for the moment when it will be possible to break out. And then all hold on, there will be no mercy.
Tellingly, such a release gives you only temporary relief and a lot of trouble for those who have fallen under the "hot hand". Keeping everything in oneself is harmful. Any situation, not being lived, will repeat itself over and over again. Learn to correctly express your thoughts, convey your point of view to your opponent. In this case, you will be more respected and appreciated. This is better than accepting the feeling of complete helplessness and inability to stand up for yourself. If you want to be reckoned with, learn to respect and love yourself. To please everyone and everyone is not only impossible, but also stupid.
Step 3
There is a saying: "Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today." We live in a world of deals, troubles and worries, and who will pick up the key to happiness for us? Perseverance and persistence in achieving goals is very good, however, the end does not always justify the means. Although most likely just the target was chosen incorrectly. What brings joy comes easily. Expending maximum efforts, we do not feel tired or depressed, but on the contrary, luck gives strength and makes it possible to move forward.
Step 4
But if the goal is chosen incorrectly, then, no matter how we convince ourselves, everything goes wrong from the very beginning. You have to make incredible efforts to get at least something. But no matter how hard we try, the tower will collapse sooner or later, and the moment may not be the most appropriate. Therefore, the feeling called “I don’t want to” is not laziness and a desire to relax, but rather a signal that something is going wrong. No one except you will tell you where this desire was born, so ask fewer questions and listen more, just not others, but yourself.
