You can look for a true faithful friend all your life, but you can never find it. A person who thinks he has many friends doesn't really have a single real one. But people need close communication, in order to entrust their innermost thoughts to someone, to share with someone. People need someone to understand them.
Who is a real friend
It is believed that a true friend should help in health and health, in wealth and in poverty, and, moreover, free of charge. Are you yourself ready to help another person free of charge? Even if a phone call picks you up in the middle of the night, are you ready to rush to your friend because he is lonely? Anyway, are you ready for the presence of another person 24 hours a day?
You should not demand from others what they are not able to give themselves. Each person has advantages and disadvantages. Friends accept the other person's flaws and build their relationship based on compromise and cooperation. But not business cooperation, but emotional.
Friends don't always have the same tastes and hobbies. The most important thing in friendship is a community of views on situations and the same life position.
True friendship abhors envy. Many people are able to sympathize with grief, but few are capable of being happy for another person sincerely, without a prick of envy. If you are capable of this, you know how to be friends. Consequently, half of the problem on your part has been resolved. It remains to find another person of the same kind.
Where to find a friend
A person learns to be friends from birth. If friendly relations prevail in the family, then the child also tries to show the same friendliness to others. Only relatives rarely become true friends. True friendship is unique in that two different people understand that they are one and value this relationship.
The first friends appear in kindergarten. It is possible that you will carry your friendship through the years to gray hair. But this happens quite rarely.
The next stage in a person's life is school. Here it is more likely to find a real friend who will cover his back, and prompt, and will not ask for anything in return. It is in school that friendship is formed more consciously.
Young people are more likely to make friends while serving in the army. Conditions in the army are harsher. There it is immediately clear who is the friend and who is the enemy. Friendly relations that originated in a military registration and enlistment office or at a recruiting office are likely to develop into real male friendship.
Universities and technical schools, schools and colleges are another place where true friendship is born. Here, there are favorable conditions for this, because students already have one common hobby - a specialty.
In adulthood, you can find a friend everywhere - in an art gallery, in a museum, in a restaurant, in a fitness center, on the Internet - anywhere. The main thing is not to miss this moment and this person who can become your friend.
How to find a real friend
Determine for yourself the qualities that your friend should have. Write down the qualities that you yourself possess. Determine which flaws you can accept and which you cannot. Point out your own shortcomings.
Take care of yourself. Going in for sports, starting to eat right - against the background of this, you can get close to someone who shares your views.
Develop, educate yourself. Find a hobby. Real friends can also be found according to interests. Don't look at the world gloomily and pessimistically. Openness and friendliness will attract people to you.
Finding a true friend is difficult, but possible. But only time will help you understand whether this person is your real friend or not.
