Divorce is a difficult test in a woman's life, and it is important that real friends are with her during this period. If your friend is going through this difficult event, you can help her cope with negative feelings and emotions.
Necessary
- - movie tickets;
- - subscription to the gym or the pool;
- - tickets for a tourist trip;
- - cake;
- - champagne;
- - literature or video course on yoga;
- - music for meditation;
- - consultation of a psychologist.
Instructions
Step 1
If your friend wants to talk to you about a painful problem, listen carefully to her. Do not seek to hang labels, do not make value judgments, do not blame the woman for anything. Give her the opportunity to speak out, show sympathy, try to console. Inspire your friend that only good awaits her and that she will still find the love of her life. Remind the woman about all the negative events you know that happened through the fault of her ex-husband. Emphasize that she is now free and can finally fully enjoy life.
Step 2
Do not start a conversation on the topic of divorce on your own, do not try to find out all the details and details of what happened, do not focus on the fact that a friend's ex-husband betrayed her. Also, do not pass on offensive or sympathetic words from neighbors, work colleagues, friends, etc., do not make your girlfriend the object of universal pity and ridicule. It is in your power to either inspire a person by sharing an infectious positive with him, or finally drive him into depression with your gossip, pity and tears.
Step 3
More often invite your friend to the movies, on a visit, on walks, parties, exhibitions and other events, do not allow her to be isolated in herself and within four walls. In her presence, exude optimism, and do not go with a pronounced sour expression on your face. Make it clear to your friend that life goes on, that if you were in the same situation, you would not become so upset.
Step 4
Enroll a divorced woman in a foreign language course or anything else that interests her. You can buy her a subscription to the pool or gym, you should be aware of your friend's long-standing desires and dreams. Perhaps she needs to visit a beauty salon? Do it with her! It's one thing when you just give advice, the upset person may not follow it, and it is quite another thing to set a personal example.
Step 5
If there is such an opportunity, invite your friend to go somewhere to relax together: at the sea, in a sanatorium, on a tourist trip, etc. A change of scenery, your positive emotions, new acquaintances - all this will certainly push an unpleasant situation into the background, make you think in a positive way.
Step 6
Inspire your friend that she is the most charming and attractive woman, strive to raise her self-esteem in any way you know. Invite her to do auto-training, meditation, yoga, etc. together. Advise life-affirming literature, films about women who, having overcome all difficulties, still found the long-awaited happiness. Give real examples of strong women who coped with the exact same situation, these can be both your mutual acquaintances and film actresses, singers, TV presenters, etc.
Step 7
Invite a friend to throw a party to celebrate her freedom. In Europe and the United States, such events have recently become very popular. Order a cake with figures of the bride and groom or ex-husband and wife, humorously playing up what happened, ideas for decorating it can be found on the Internet. Invite your friends, warn them in advance that the format of the event does not tolerate sympathy and any regrets. Gifts, champagne, fun music and easy communication - these are the main components of the holiday!
Step 8
And most importantly, try to take care of your heart so that your friend does not feel that she is a burden to you. Only in this case can you really help the person and achieve real results.
