Before an important conversation, think about non-verbal communication, that is, body language. If the other person lies to you, you can recognize the lie and avoid a lot of trouble.
Can body language deceive
About 60-80% of information about a person can be obtained just not from his speeches, but from gestures, postures and facial expressions. Body language experts argue that this communication tool never deceives.
If a person tries to tightly control gestures and facial expressions, giving out only those of them that signal his sincerity, you will still notice that something was wrong. Look closely at the interlocutor, curvature and asymmetry of the facial muscles, frequent blinking and blushing may indicate insincerity.
Psychophysiological signs of lies
- Trembling in the voice and frequently changing timbre;
- Biting and licking lips;
- Frequent and noisy swallowing of saliva;
- Thirst (a person asks for water or drinks it quickly);
- Coughing, sore throat;
- Yawning and deep breathing of air;
- Tick (twitching) of the eyelids, eyebrows, lips.
Facial expressions and gestures are signs of lies
- Constant rubbing and scratching of hands, face, head, neck;
- Restless fingers - fiddling with clothes, small objects, breaking matches, putting things in order on the table;
- Frequent lighting and extinguishing of cigarettes;
- Hiding hands behind the back, under clothes;
- Scratching the nose and earlobes;
- If the interlocutor is a woman, she can start to powder herself, correct her hair;
- Looking away or, conversely, gazing intently into the eyes of the interlocutor;
- Unconscious search for any support - wood, furniture, wall;
- An asymmetrical smile "through force", a crooked grin;
- Tilt of the body to the side of the interlocutor.
One or two signs do not yet indicate that the person is deceiving you, but if you notice 5-6 signs from the above, you have a reason to be wary.
Typical phrases of a liar
In addition to the non-verbal signs of insincerity that you may notice in the interlocutor, there are also typical phrases and expressions that betray liars. Frequent repetition of certain phrases, insisting on one's honesty - this all speaks of an attempt to deceive.
- "Believe me";
- “I swear to God, I am extremely honest with you”;
- “Do not hesitate, I am telling the truth”;
- “You know I won't cheat”;
- "I'm sure you will understand me."
How to behave in a conversation with a cheater
If you have reason to suspect the interlocutor of deception, in the conversation, do the following:
- look directly in the eyes with doubt;
- ask direct questions that do not allow evasion;
- be emotional and express your feelings violently to unbalance the liar;
- interrupt his harmonious speech with an unexpected question;
- violate the personal space of the interlocutor.
