Being able to refuse is an important skill in our time, which must be learned in order to be able to defend interests and maintain peace of mind.
1. Understand what drives desire.
First of all, to realize that there is no fear behind the fear of speaking, there is anxiety in front of the opinion of other people. There is a fear that after refusal they will stop communicating and turn away. In fact, this fear is easy to deal with. It is enough to realize that everyone has the right to their own interests, which do not always coincide with those of others.
2. Realize your own and someone else's level of responsibility.
It is necessary to clearly understand what depends on each. It's one thing to save a wounded person from the car, it's another thing to help a person who can cope on his own or, in extreme cases, learn.
3. Swap places with your opponent.
To do this, mentally switch places with the person who has a problem. It is important to understand how difficult the situation is. When there is an understanding that you can do otherwise, there is peace of mind that the other can cope on their own with the problem that has arisen.
4. Pay attention to who is asking for help.
Unfortunately, manipulation is not uncommon. If, upon refusal, they begin to take offense, then this means that the opponent is trying in any way to achieve his goal. Therefore, this behavior should be stopped by categorical refusal. In another case, when a sincere person asks for help, you should consider the request adequately and try to find comforting words.
4. To temper character.
Unfortunately, there is no way without it. Confidence in oneself, one's strengths and capabilities, unambiguously means that after the decision is made, there will be no feeling of guilt and remorse.
