Some disadvantages make it difficult to build a successful career and personal life. It is quite difficult to get rid of unwanted personality traits altogether. But it is quite possible to adjust the character just a little.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about what personality traits you perceive as your shortcomings. Maybe some of them can be considered pluses in a suitable situation. For example, you are used to thinking of yourself as being overly stubborn. But the same habit of being stubborn under the right circumstances can play into your hands. For example, when achieving some goals, it turns into perseverance, and this is a rather positive quality.
Step 2
Focus only on your own opinion and self-awareness. You should not break your character and lose your individuality just because your partner or one of your friends called one of your character traits a flaw. A person has a right to his opinion. But if you're comfortable with your present state, be yourself. Remember that the other person's point of view is subjective and sometimes biased. Therefore, you should not trust the opinion of others so much.
Step 3
Remember that all of your personality traits together make up your personality. Seriously correcting, breaking your character, you risk completely losing your own individuality. Maybe you need to get rid of not the so-called shortcomings, but he of the wrong attitude towards them. Don't be too self-critical. Stop picking on yourself. Build your self-esteem.
Step 4
If you are determined to correct some of your inner quality, start working on yourself. Think about the situations in which this or that trait hinders you, and how your life will change if you get rid of this quality. Keep this example in mind during all your transformation, it will serve you as a great motivation.
Step 5
Watch for situations where you demonstrate your flaw and control your behavior during such moments. Gradually, with regular work on yourself, you will develop a certain habit. You will begin to forget about your flaw, because he will less and less declare himself. The main thing in this business is perseverance.
Step 6
Praise and thank yourself for every accomplishment in the hard work of transforming your character. After the first step, you should not immediately take up the next step. Celebrate your merits, otherwise it will be very difficult for you. Reward yourself for consistency and perseverance in achieving your goal.
Step 7
Don't expect results too quickly. The mistake of some people when working on themselves is that they quickly despair and give up. Set yourself up for a long, difficult process right away. Disadvantages don't go away overnight. Sometimes it can take several months to fix some character traits.
