The attitude of the people around you reflects many circumstances, sometimes beyond your control. Often - this is public spam, requiring immediate removal from the program of fate. Simply put, you are overgrown with gossip, but you cannot fight it.
Instructions
Step 1
Count your shortcomings again. Now all of them should be on your special account if you want to change the established view of others on your merits.
Step 2
Forgive yourself for some of your character traits, justifying: "After all, it is not my fault that such and such!" This will be the first step towards recognizing your bad character traits.
Step 3
Tell your neighbors about yourself. Present them with the positive facts of your life. Always a commonplace reason (by the way, completely unexpected for a person), giving rise to nasty gossip, is incomplete information available to the public. It can also carry the same type of facts, or be one-sided. Add facts that are beneficial to you to the right people.
Step 4
Avoid distorted facts about your problems when talking to friends. Any distortion of reality returns as dirty slops to your head.
Step 5
Make sure that your behavior pattern matches the desired attitude towards you. Maybe you really respect the person, but accidentally allowed yourself a harsh remark? How would he know that there was respect behind her? Speak the phrase: I respect you. Keep your distance from ostentatious benevolence, hypocritical boasting, artsy courtesy.
Step 6
Carefully observe and analyze the speech addressed to you, the response phrases to your words. If a person listens to you, interrupting, inattentively and impatiently, without pleasure, then this signals his negative attitude towards you, at best, indifferent.
Step 7
Learn to perceive and understand yourself correctly. An effective exercise in this direction can be watching a video recording with personal participation in the footage or listening to an audio recording with your own voice. Conclusions are easy to draw: what you like or dislike has the same effect on outsiders.
Step 8
Experiment in front of a mirror, and then in front of people: try to make them smile, for example, or tenderness. It is good if there is a friend whom you can directly ask: "Do you like it when I do like this?"
Step 9
The new patterns of your behavior that you have developed should be carefully monitored for six months.
