For many people, perfectionism seems harmless enough. Well, just think, a person strives for perfection, what's wrong with that? Moreover, modern society encourages craving for the ideal. Around the illustrations of beautiful interiors, perfect bodies, impeccable faces. The bosses motivate to the fullest dedication and the highest efficiency.
However, rarely does anyone think about the consequences of such a phenomenon. After all, the ideal does not exist, so it is impossible to achieve it. That is why the perfectionist finds himself in a mental trap: he tries to catch something that does not exist. Ultimately, this leads to burnout, neuroses, depression, anxiety disorders and even suicide.
Studies of British psychologists among students have shown that an increasing number of young people intend to meet the excessively high demands of society.
There are three types of perfectionism.
- Personal. When a person makes high demands on himself.
- External. In this form, the perfectionist is categorical about other people who, as he sees it, must meet certain standards.
- Social. It is characterized by dependence on the opinions of others. Such a person believes that society expects a lot from him and is afraid not to live up to expectations.
Although perfectionism can manifest itself in different ways and with varying degrees of severity, there are certain traits that indicate its presence.
So, perfectionist:
1. Without noticing it, he creates a lot of rules for himself and / or those around him. At the same time, he is very jealous, sometimes painful, about their following.
2. Fears negative feedback. Almost always acts out of fear of failure.
3. Gives up before taking action. After all, he is haunted by the fear of defeat, the fear that he will not be able to perform this business perfectly. He focuses on failures and failures.
4. You are almost never 100% satisfied with yourself. He always feels that he could have done better.
5. Afraid of not meeting someone's expectations. Self-esteem and self-esteem depend on the opinions of others.
6. Evaluates the results of his activities according to the polar principle: either all or nothing.
7. Even in spite of outward success, in the depths of his soul he feels himself a failure, because he belittles his achievements.
8. Constantly doubts, and it interferes with making decisions.
9. Making decisions, tries to think for other people, thinks out how others will appreciate his actions.
10. Always compares himself to others.
Are there any points in which you recognized yourself? If there are several of them, then you are to some extent a perfectionist. Realizing this is the first, very important step in understanding yourself.
