It happens that people, due to their excessive modesty, have difficulties in communicating even with people close to them. On holidays, they just sit in a corner, trying not to talk to anyone and not to participate in the fun. And if there is such an opportunity, then such a person will simply miss this event. Because of this behavior, even the closest people may consider such a person arrogant, because over time he generally ceases to communicate with them. However, do not despair - there are a huge number of techniques that can be used to overcome modesty.
Instructions
Step 1
First, accept the fact that you are a humble person. Don't get hung up on the fact that you can't come up with a worthy objection to someone's stupid joke in time. You have a ton of other benefits to focus on.
Step 2
When you are talking to a person, try to give him as much attention as possible. Listen to what the people around you are saying. Don't be afraid to ask them any clarifying questions, such as "what surprised you the most about this" or "what do you mean when you discuss this." People love to be asked for their opinion, but don't forget to speak up. This is one of the most common ways to maintain a conversation, and you can develop this ability in yourself without any problems.
Step 3
Try starting small conversations more often. This is very easy to do, for example, when you buy food in a store, instead of immediately leaving the checkout, compliment the seller, ask him about something. These fleeting phrases will make a good impression of you.
Step 4
Try to take part in solving the problems of your loved ones, especially if you have a real opportunity to help. You will not even notice the moment when you stop being shy - you simply will not have time for it.
Step 5
Never refuse your friends' suggestions to go out and chat together. If they invite you, it means that they are interested in you.
Step 6
Learn to calmly respond to rejections. Sometimes the person just doesn't want to talk to you. Instead of getting angry with him, explain to others the reason for this behavior.
Step 7
Alternatively, you can do the following exercise: Take a walk in crowded places and try to talk to someone. You don't need to make friends with this person, you just want to get him to talk.
