Every day, dozens of times a person is faced with a choice: to wear a white shirt or a blue one, to answer the rude saleswoman or to remain silent. These are simple solutions. Everyone accepts them quickly, practically without hesitation, depending on their own mood. The situation is completely different when you need to choose a life partner, change your job or place of residence. A person is tormented by doubts, fears of uncertainty and the possibility of error. These recommendations will help you make the right choice in life.
Necessary
Free time, private place, sheets of paper, fountain pen or pencil
Instructions
Step 1
Tune in to the right choice.
Choose a time when no one will bother you. In a well-ventilated room, make yourself comfortable on an armchair, sofa, or desk. Focus on the situation that worries you, listen to yourself.
Formulate the problem for which you have to make the right choice. Write it down on the sheet of paper at the top. Write as you name the situation for yourself. This may be the question: "Is it worth changing jobs?" Or the statement: "I want to live separately from my parents."
Then add a few words to clarify the situation. For example, you need to make a choice before a certain deadline or meet a small amount.
List below all the people who will be affected by your decision: you, your loved ones, colleagues, friends, neighbors, and so on.
Step 2
Stay on the scales.
Divide a sheet of paper vertically in half. Label the left and right halves according to your choices, such as "old job" and "new job" or "live with parents" and "live apart."
In each column, respectively, list the positive and then the negative aspects of the situation. Do not forget to note how this or that decision will affect your relationship with family and friends. Be sure to assess the degree of risk, as well as the amount and quality of possible losses.
Your selection scales are full. You probably think you are ready to make the right choice. Do not hurry!
Step 3
Take advice.
Talk to people you trust. Tell us about your doubts. Listen to their arguments. It is possible that a small detail will make you look at the problem differently. And, of course, it is necessary to discuss the proposed steps with those who will be affected by the changes first. Your family and friends have the right to know what is going on, and should take an active part in this process.
Step 4
Take action.
Do not torment yourself and those around you with unnecessary doubts. Choice is always a burden of responsibility. Carry it with pride. And remember, all the peaks are available to the brave!
