There are people who find it difficult to communicate. Once in an unfamiliar company, they get lost, feel insecure. They are haunted by the fear that they will do or say something wrong, find themselves in an absurd, ridiculous position. Therefore, they stay in the background, try not to attract attention to themselves, do not enter into a conversation, or limit themselves to short, meaningless phrases. Naturally, many people around do not like this: such behavior is regarded as arrogance, arrogance.
Instructions
Step 1
Understand that isolation, shyness in itself is not something bad or reprehensible. On the contrary, within certain limits, it is even useful. But when isolation takes on clearly excessive forms, it begins to harm a person, and it is necessary to fight with it.
Step 2
Self-hypnosis plays a huge role. Constantly convince yourself: “Around the most ordinary people, just like me. In some ways they are superior to me, and in some they are inferior. And they do not at all wait for my first mistake to laugh at me! Inspire yourself: nothing terrible will happen if you talk to someone, discuss something, ask a question. The world will not turn upside down from this.
Step 3
Read books on psychology on this issue. You will surely find useful advice on how you should act to get rid of excessive isolation and shyness.
Step 4
Do not forget the old wise rule: "Treat like with like." Are you afraid to communicate with people? So force yourself to talk to them more often, and quickly see for yourself that there is nothing wrong with that! Engage in conversation anywhere and on any topic. Exchange a couple of neutral phrases with a shop assistant, with a neighbor in the stairwell, with a random passer-by. Your task is to see that it is very easy, and it doesn't get any worse for you. And then communication will go much easier.
Step 5
To get rid of the stiffness, embarrassment in an unfamiliar company, there are several simple but effective ways. First, try to look around, identify the groups into which it is divided. Second, listen to what they are talking about. Third, join the conversation if the topic is familiar to you: then you probably will not make a mistake.
Step 6
Remember to pay attention to your appearance. A person dressed even modestly, but neatly, in impeccably clean shoes, with a neat haircut, makes a favorable impression on those around him. This, in turn, will give you confidence.
Step 7
Learn to look at life easier. Excessive isolation is usually characteristic of overly responsible, impressionable people, for whom any failure is a tragedy. Remember that everyone, even a genius, has the right to make mistakes.
