Infantilism is a mental retardation that occurs due to unformed social skills. It is formed in a family in which parents in every possible way postpone the child's exit into the world, and in the future is supported by the society itself. Modern culture supports the cult of youth, life "high" in a person, offering a huge selection of entertainment.
Instructions
Step 1
Becoming an adult with a passport, an infantile person is not ready to build relationships with other members of society, it is difficult for him to find a job for the same reason. Everything would be fine, but such people get married early, and now all the care of them falls on the spouse. In marriage, all the negative character traits of the "child" are manifested very clearly: 1. Egocentrism, because the infantile believes that the world revolves around him. 2. The inability to make decisions and the inability to exercise willpower is manifested in the little things. Dependency, and this is not only and not so much the material side of the issue. An adult child is not able to serve himself in everyday life, and if children appear in such a marriage, then the care for them is completely shifted to the spouse, who plays the role of "older brother."
Step 2
In such a situation, the growing up of an infantile person depends on the spouse or on the parents, if he is still on their support. And all actions should be aimed primarily at changing their own position. Usually in such a situation, the spouse, whose husband lies on the couch all day and refuses to take responsibility, begins to nag him. In response, he begins a game of pretense. For a “child” to disappear, he must first lose his “parent”. And for this you need to take the position of an adult who has stopped caring about the "baby" and raising him.
Step 3
The reaction of an infantile person, who was robbed of his bright rainbow world of irresponsibility, can be different. At first, he will try with all his might to return the situation to its previous state. Most likely, he will pretend to be helpless, press on pity. If the wife / mother will steadfastly hold on to the position of an adult, then the infantile will begin to heal from his illness. The second variant of development - the "child" will lose interest and set off in search of a new "mother". If his mother made an attempt to cure, then he will run away from her into marriage; if a wife, then such a marriage will end.
Step 4
In fact, by overprotecting her child / husband, the mother / wife also gets something in return. She feels needed and useful. If the mother does not have enough arguments to change the situation, then she needs to come to the understanding that her child will not be truly happy in adulthood, that being unadapted to reality, he will suffer. Wives themselves often get tired of infantile husbands and they do not need to look for special arguments. Even if there is a fear of divorce, you need to understand that a mature person and an infantile person will not get along anyway.
