Each of us has had unpleasant stories in life, but how many people - so many options for perceiving these stories. Sometimes we go too deep into our negative thoughts and begin to lose touch with real, vibrant and fulfilling life.
Instructions
Step 1
There is no doubt that everything that happens in life affects our future. The key to success today is to come to terms with the past and live in the present. Do not forget, do not destroy, but accept and move on. The burden of past mistakes and disappointments sometimes weighs on us almost physically. And that is why this cargo needs to be comprehended and processed.
Step 2
Insomnia, irritability, distraction, anxiety - this is a list of the consequences of digging into the negative experience of the past. These are symptoms and can be treated with antidepressants or sedatives. But it is better, nevertheless, to influence not only the effect, but the very cause.
Step 3
To distract from chewing on unpleasant thoughts is the first and, possibly for many, healing advice. After all, we all tend to lock ourselves in four walls on difficult days for us, to hide and cherish our grief. And this is fundamentally wrong! Remember that the body suffers as well as our senses. Walking in the fresh air, meeting nice people, bringing something new into life, be it a book, a record or dance lessons - all this in a sparing mode will eventually become a priority for you and there will simply be no time to dig yourself.
Step 4
Think of life as momentary. Here and now are the two words that should become your motto. Treat life from a child's perspective: be surprised, look for something new. Sunset over the river, leaves under our feet, a butterfly flying through the window - how long have we stopped paying attention to such trifles!
Step 5
In cases where the problems of the past press unbearably, it makes sense to turn to specialists. There are many ways to free yourself from unpleasant thoughts. Psychotherapy does not stand still, and today many doctors are ready to help people suffering from the consequences of digging in the past.
Step 6
Body-oriented therapy, for example, is about understanding the body as a carrier that literally remembers everything that happens to us. Closing in ourselves, we close our emotions inside, not giving them a way out. As a result, we feel how the body becomes physically constrained. Therapeutic touches and various exercises restore the former lightness of mind and body and restore balance.
Step 7
Cognitive therapy allows us to realize that what happened once is not our fault and many events are simply beyond our control. As a result, the patient becomes aware of the reality of what happened, freeing himself from the unfair burden of guilt.
Step 8
The anger / stress management method is also helpful in difficult situations. Under the supervision of a doctor, a person learns to cope with his emotions, manage them, relax and get distracted from oppressive thoughts. As a result, when we remember, we feel less painful, we look at the situation in a new way and see not only the bad.
Step 9
Of course, time is our best helper. Our healer and keeper. A week, a month, a year will pass - and it will become easier for us to breathe, it will be easier for us to remember what previously caused pain, because we have experienced it, realized and resigned ourselves. And this is the surest way to return to real life.
