Every second of wakefulness, a person thinks about something. And the train of thoughts has no end. It is good that now there is no device for reading them. After all, bad, even scary thoughts sometimes wedge themselves into harmless thoughts about solving everyday problems and planning for the future. All these are tricks of the human subconscious. And each of us, at least once rejoicing in the failure of a neighbor, could be caught red-handed. How to defeat the "inner demon"? Psychologists know how to get rid of bad thoughts.
- American psychologist Eric Klinger claims that a person subconsciously constantly examines the surrounding reality for potential danger. When these emotional signals are detected, bad thoughts arise. This is a kind of defensive reaction. For example, an employee once again receives a reprimand from the boss. Consciously he experiences shame, annoyance, confusion. And his subconscious perceives the angry boss as a danger and in response sends thoughts about how the employee beats, crushes and simply mocks his boss. So when you have these kinds of bad thoughts, it doesn't mean that you are a bad person. But you need to analyze your environment and activities, make certain adjustments.
- As soon as bad thoughts burst into our consciousness, we immediately try to brush them off, run away, hide. This makes them even more intrusive. This process resembles the mythical Lernaean hydra, where instead of one severed head, two appear. According to the theory of psychologist David Bass, a bad thought must be read to the end. Do not be afraid to commit a “thought crime”. You will not be blamed for it. Moreover, it blocks such actions in reality.
- If you get sucked in by bad thoughts, try not to end up in a bloody thriller. When mentally viewing the picture, include humor in the process and give it more positive meaning. For example, if a person annoys you, don't kill him. Just mentally correct what is annoying you. Loud laughter can be twisted by the sound, you can cope with facial expressions and gestures by reducing your interlocutor several times. Yes, it all takes patience and focus. Train!
- This is a self-evident rule for anyone who wants to get rid of bad thoughts. You cannot share them with friends and family. And there are several reasons for this. Firstly, such a confession can damage your reputation and become a serious weapon in the hands of ill-wishers. Secondly, after such a frank story, you may begin to fear the spread of personal information. Bad thoughts, together with the source of their occurrence, will gradually go away and be forgotten, but a reminder of them by acquaintances can become a serious obstacle in this.
- If you have managed to free yourself from bad thoughts for a while, try to correctly assess reality. Perhaps there have been some changes in your life: you changed your environment, stopped communicating with certain people, changed your place of work or study. This way you can not only find the source of your dark and obsessive thoughts, but also be able to prevent them again.
