The tension of modern life, economic and social turmoil give rise to more and more negative emotions in society. Almost every day one has to deal with unjustified anger, barbs or bullying. How to deal with the offender and how to respond to the offense?
Instructions
Step 1
Listen to the end without interrupting. After the abuser finished his speech, threw out his first emotions, and there was a pause, take the situation into your own hands. Make a gesture with your hand, as if stopping him, and, at the same time, in a firm calm tone say that he has the right to emotions, but should not go over to insults.
Step 2
Take control of your emotions so that your decisions about how to respond to the resentment will be better. Sometimes the best way to deal with petty rudeness and nagging is to completely ignore them. Switch your attention from offensive barbs, perceive them as a general background (the wind is making noise, birds are screaming …). Don't let others provoke you and control your emotions. To make it easier to follow this recommendation, imagine the abuser as a pathetic, wet, yapping dog. If you are offended in a public place, on the street, on the subway, think carefully before trying to punish the offender. Indeed, in such a situation, there is a high probability of collision with a very aggressive type of people who are used to using brute force to sort things out. In this case, it is better to calmly retire away from possible troubles. Let it be a consolation for you that your offender with such a character will definitely get what he deserves, even if not at this moment, and not from you.
Step 3
Fight back firmly in a situation where it becomes impossible to ignore the abuser. Answer nicely, with a sense of humor. In order not to get confused when faced with an offender, think over a few phrases for him in advance. By giving the abuser your “killer” response, you will feel like a winner and keep your good mood. For example, tell a rude saleswoman with a smile that you understand that she has problems with her husband, but you are not to blame for this, you just need a pack of oil.
Step 4
Unleash your emotions if you see that there is no other way to stop the boor. In this case, find the strength to concentrate all your resentment, resentment and resentment, and throw out all this negativity on the offender, giving him the answer he deserves. Support this "explosion" with a firm voice, a stern expression on your face, a contemptuous look and even a few words from his vocabulary. After such an "attack" all negativity will come out of you, and you will calm down.
