Many people periodically face psychological pressure from the outside, which can manifest itself in different ways. Parents put pressure on children to meet their expectations, friends, bureaucratic apparatus and the state put pressure on them.
By and large, people living in a modern technocratic state are under pressure on a daily basis. People around you, as a rule, want something: friends, colleagues, shop assistants. If their desires do not match yours, they begin to put pressure on you. Hidden pressure is advertising, mass media, politicians. But there are also conflicts that are more obvious and difficult to resolve, when people are blackmailed, extorted from them a bribe, etc. All this is one field of berries, but in each situation you need to look for your way out.
When your relatives or friends put pressure on you, it is always a conflict of views and interests. There may be pressure “for the good” when a friend or relative offers you the best, in their opinion, scenario, which is different from the one you have chosen. In this case, analyze both points of view, try to calculate the consequences of these moves. It may be worth listening to your "advisor", especially if he is more competent. For example, the teacher can put pressure on the student to learn the subject. Or parents forbid a small child to communicate with "bad company".
But more often the pressure comes from selfishness. People around you try to interfere in the course of your life so that you do what is more convenient for them. Moreover, they themselves may not always be aware of this. So, a mother can dissuade her son from getting married if she didn’t like something about the bride or she’s afraid of being abandoned. The mother thinks that she is advising for the good, but only her selfishness speaks in her. There are many similar cases. If you find yourself under such pressure from loved ones, it is worth talking to them frankly. Explain why your choice is best for you. But do it gently. Make it clear to the person that you love and respect him, but want to make decisions in your life on your own. In no case do not show aggression, do not try to actively "defend", otherwise the opponent will be even more convinced that he is right.
Try to accept instructions, possible offenses with a smile. Remember that no one will live your life for you, and negative relationships will not improve. In the end, the decision is up to you. But, if the life of others depends on him, you will have to reckon with their opinion. Questions of large expenses in the family, travel, etc. must be solved together. If they still don't listen to your opinion, try bringing in an outside expert with an open mind about the situation.
There are situations in which you need to be firm. If you stick to the chosen line, then the family will stop pressing and sooner or later will come to terms with your choice. But it happens that the situation leads to rejection of each other. In this case, if there is no third option, you will have to give up something, and you need to weigh the possible consequences well.
