A person often ignores communication with unpleasant interlocutors. This is a normal reaction to extraneous negativity. But circumstances sometimes turn out to be stronger than desires. Therefore, you have to maneuver, stay calm and defend yourself correctly. How to deal with negative pressure from others?
Agree that there is no smoke without fire. And every bad character can be explained. That is, to understand why people are sowing negativity around them. Most often, psychological manipulators suffer from this. They try to assert themselves by humiliating other people. Alas, it will not be possible to change such unpleasant persons. But you can see through them, openly declare that you know their intentions, and you absolutely do not care what they think of you. Yes, that will piss them off even more. But at the same time it will disarm.
There is a category of people who are often called "hotheads". This is due to their increased emotionality. They don't know what peace of mind is. They quickly turn to shouting and swearing. And in return they expect to hear the same thing. In this case, an insignificant trifle can become a reason for a conflict. You should not succumb to the provocations of such people. Calm and only calm. Remember how professors at the university give lectures to freshmen: quietly and with a constellation. And they achieve perfect silence. What prevents you from following the same example? Listen to the angry tirade to the end, take a break, take a deep breath and explain your position as calmly as possible.
Often, a person tries to respond with kindness to the anger of others. This is not to say that this is bad. But it's often just useless. After all, the mask of virtue, like a red rag for a bull, will only provoke opponents. They will try with renewed zeal to bring you to emotions. It is best to accept neutrality. Ignore any negative attacks. Try to be an observer, not a participant. Let the other person understand that you are an insurmountable wall.
Often evil people and manipulators have a strong belief that everyone around them is indifferent and stupid. Reinvent the bike for them! Greet the "enemy", even if you recently had a conflict. If the opportunity arises, you can ask about his health and affairs. If he says something rude to this, just smile and walk away. But do not deviate from your strategy at next meetings.
If you start to "boil" in a conversation with a negative person, take a step back. Or just move away from the interlocutor. Start taking deep breaths in and out. Practice this until you feel complete peace of mind and body. This will turn off your instincts to fight or flee from the psychological pressure of others. The panic will go away and you will begin to control the situation.
When you feel that the conversation with the unpleasant interlocutor has reached a dead end, and no means are helping, quit the game. At the same time, it must be said that you are no longer interested in this conversation. No, you will not sign your own powerlessness and will not make an escape. You will be wise and save your nerve cells.
By surrounding yourself with people with negative thoughts and actions, you risk drowning in this swamp. This must not be allowed! Try to look for the positive and build a protective barrier out of it. Start with a simple gratitude. Fill every day with pleasant moments. Remember, like is drawn to like. Therefore, become a little sun, and soon your life will sparkle with bright colors.
