An insecure person is not able to make decisions on his own without outside advice and approval. However, the constant dependence on the opinions of others sooner or later gets boring, and there is a desire to part with it.
Stop comparing yourself to others
Dependence on other people's opinions arises in people who are insecure. Perhaps, in childhood, their parents did not pay enough attention to them: they did not praise them for real successes and achievements, and in most cases they used someone as an example. As a result, the personality developed a low self-esteem and a constant need to "keep an alignment with others."
It is necessary to clearly understand for yourself that all people are different, and have both advantages and disadvantages. There will always be more successful people, but also many less talented people. Each person has his own purpose in life: someone should make great discoveries, and someone should just work for the common good.
Do not create idols for yourself, but strive to independently realize yourself as a person. Define your abilities, and based on the possibilities, achieve your own goals.
Don't make excuses
An insecure person is prone to excessive self-criticism. He constantly analyzes his behavior, notes personal flaws and ascribes to himself unseemly actions. He too moralizes around his words, thoughts and actions.
Such a person constantly experiences unreasonable feelings of guilt. As a result, there is a habit of making excuses for every act. It is as if he deliberately belittles himself in the eyes of those around him, emphasizing how something didn’t work out for him, but he simply didn’t know something.
To free yourself from guilt, you need to stop making excuses. Make it a habit to apologize only in extreme cases, when you are really late or let someone down. In other situations, restrain the urge to explain the reasons for your actions.
Pay attention to your own successes
Stop thinking that you are dumber, weaker and worse than anyone else. Start appreciating and respecting your personality. You probably have dignity that you simply do not attach importance to.
Analyze your successes and achievements, but not from the position of a loser, but a winner. Do not think about what you didn’t succeed, but identify the areas in which you really excel. Take pride in your successes and strive to become a confident person.
Praise yourself more often and strive for self-development. Broaden your horizons and try to develop your own point of view on each issue.
Take responsibility
Dependence on the opinions of others arises as a result of the fear of taking responsibility for the decisions made. A person is afraid to make a mistake and wants to shift the entire burden of responsibility onto other people's shoulders. Thus, in case of failure, he will remain innocent, but in case of victory, all the laurels will go not to him, but to another.
Don't be afraid to take risks and take responsibility for your life. Only give advice in extreme cases, when the situation is serious enough, and you are really incompetent in this matter. Seek advice only from professionals, and you yourself should look for a way out of everyday problems.
