In life, we are in contact with many people, and not every one of them develops a mutual understanding. However, situations are not uncommon when we still have to communicate with our ideological opponents - at work, in the family, or in another team. How can conflict situations be avoided in this case?
Instructions
Step 1
Don't provoke. If you know that a person is a boor and a squabbler, it is better to stay away from him, once again not to talk to him, to communicate only when necessary. Thus, you reduce the chances that the conflict will cling to you.
Step 2
If the trouble did happen, and the person dragged you into a conflict situation, in no case should you lower yourself to his level. In practice, this can be very difficult to do, but if you do this in response to rudeness or abuse against you, you will lose face, which is what your opponent is trying to achieve. Be discreet, do not raise your voice or shout.
Step 3
In the event that your enemy has crossed all sorts of boundaries, insulting you, in no case do not be silent. Say that talking in this tone is not acceptable and that you refuse to continue the conversation until he apologizes. Ignore all his further words completely - until you get an apology.
Step 4
Think about the goals pursued by the person with whom you often have conflict situations. Most likely, he does this not for the love of art: a colleague can challenge you to a scandal in order to make you appear in the eyes of the leadership as an unrestrained and unreliable person, and the mother-in-law can “cling” you because she thinks that you do not respect her enough. If you can find where the legs of the conflict grow from, you can end it.
Step 5
Analyze your behavior after each conflict situation. It is quite possible that in some way you caused the conflict without noticing it yourself. This should be done after you have stopped burning with righteous indignation and can look at the situation objectively. Try to look at it "from the outside", and, perhaps, you will see some of your mistakes, which can be avoided in the future.
