Human tactlessness is often perplexing. The curiosity of others is uncomfortable and embarrassing. What if the interlocutor asks questions about his personal life, or circumstances in which he would not want to devote to strangers? How to make it clear to the interlocutor that it is impossible to cross the line?
Everyone has secrets, life circumstances that you would not want to devote to random people, and just unpleasant topics that you would not want to discuss. If your life arouses curiosity and interest among others, this does not mean that you are obliged to open your soul to each of them.
"Why won't you give birth to a child?", "Are you getting a divorce?", "Haven't you married yet?", "Haven't married her?", "Do you have something with her (him)?" - these and similar questions often spoil the mood and make you want to end the conversation, or even sink into the ground. It is worth following the lead of the interlocutor - and after a few minutes you will begin to regret that the conversation took the form of a discussion of your personal life. Moreover, such forced frankness often becomes a pretext for gossip.
In such cases, do not be embarrassed. It is necessary to clearly define the boundaries. for which the interlocutor should not go, and make it clear.
People ask tactless questions for different reasons. We can always feel in the question of the interlocutor - he does it out of stupidity or in his desire to ask an uncomfortable question there is envy, schadenfreude, insidious intent. Based on this, you should choose a line of behavior in which everything that you say to the interlocutor will never be used against you. In other words, you should be prepared for such a situation so as not to go into your pocket for a word.
If the person in front of you is, in general, sincere, and asked a question out of mental simplicity (or rather, out of stupidity), put him in his place gently enough. Here, a reproachful perplexed look and a short: "Well, you give … to ask such questions" is clearly triggered. If the relationship is trusting, you can say: "Let's not talk about sad things", "It's difficult." You can safely notice that you do not want to discuss the topic of interest to the interlocutor at the moment. The main thing is not to let the interlocutor catch on to an embarrassing moment, and smoothly transfer the topic of conversation to something neutral.
If you have a person in front of you who asks a question about your personal life, holding a stone in his bosom, you can answer more boldly. "And where does such an interest in my nondescript person come from?" Or: "Are you eager to talk about this? Do you think we have similar problems?"
If the question put you in an awkward situation, try to skillfully return the "pebble to your garden" - to answer the question with a question. "What, your boyfriend left you?", "Do you care about my personal life?" " - such formulations will confuse and confuse the impudent interlocutor. Do not be afraid of your own malice - it works flawlessly, and for the future you will protect yourself from unpleasant curiosity. It is important to maintain an icy calm and give your face an expression of mocking irony. As they say - smile, people are insanely annoying!
If the interlocutor behaves insolently, you can say: "I will inform about my press conference when I find the time for this. In the meantime, write down all the questions on a piece of paper, prepare for this event properly." However, if the interlocutor is unpleasant to you, you can smile with all your heart and, looking straight into your eyes, confidentially inform: "I, of course, do not want to offend you, but this is my dog business."
The main thing is not to pretend that you are offended by an embarrassing question. Smile, joke, use your wits at full blast. Your sense of humor will charm those who treat you sincerely, and scare away gossips and ill-wishers for a long time.
