How often it happens that a person cannot find a topic when communicating with a representative of the opposite sex, is embarrassed, tightly silent, or with an effort gives out banal questions about the weather or monosyllabic answers. If you, due to your shyness, faced a similar situation, a few simple tips will help.
Instructions
Step 1
The surest way to become an interesting interlocutor is to either talk about what you are really fascinated with or be interested in what you would very much like to know.
Step 2
Before a date, write down a list of topics and things for yourself that you can talk about for hours, this will allow you not to forget about them at the right time. Universal topics that require the participation of your interlocutor are well suited: travel and hobbies, favorite music, books and films, leisure preferences.
Step 3
Do not be afraid that your interlocutor or interlocutor knows something much better than you, your questions will allow you to direct the dialogue in a really interesting direction for him.
Step 4
A win-win topic is talking about your interlocutor. Ask what she or he does, what she loves, and what she dreams of. You can offer a game topic for conversation - fantasize together what each of you would spend a million on or which route you would take on your journey. You can also play with the answers to questions, agreeing that you will not repeat the questions of another. This will help remove the barrier of shyness and give you the opportunity to speak more sincerely.
Step 5
Slippery topics such as religion and politics, sex, etc. in conversations at the initial stage of acquaintance, it is better to avoid, dwell on positive topics in which the difference in views will not be fundamental.
Step 6
Remember and tell a funny story from your life, but you should not turn this story into a long monologue with an abundance of names and events. Be emotional and strive to involve the interlocutor in your conversation by asking questions that require a detailed answer, and soon common hobbies and topics will find themselves.
