Self-doubt is the cause of most nervous breakdowns and worries from the fact that any sign of attention to oneself seems to be a mockery. While the person passing by simply smiled at his thoughts, or he is in a good mood, or maybe he liked you. It's time to deal with the complexes that prevent you from being happy.
Instructions
Step 1
It seems to you that you have a long nose, crooked legs, excess weight, while experiencing terrible feelings of suffering and anxiety. Perhaps there were even thoughts of plastic surgery. Do you need it? Note that you are exaggerating your shortcomings. Look at famous actors and artists, do many of them have perfect data? Not. But they either skillfully use them in their creative careers, or have learned to disguise. You, like the idols of millions of people, are not like those around you. And this is wonderful. For example, Tom Cruise and Sergey Zverev are shy about their small stature. If you look into the wardrobe of each of them, then you can see shoes only on a high platform. Vanessa Paradis has a gap between her teeth, but she does not hesitate to show her smile.
Is it possible to say that a small stature or a cosmetic defect prevented these people from making a brilliant career? Why should complexes prevent you from living fully and happily?
Step 2
If the flaw is noticeable so that some allow you to make jokes about you, then, firstly, do not show anger, and, secondly, learn to choose the right clothes, for example, if you are unhappy with your figure. Watch what you eat.
Step 3
Learn how to apply makeup correctly and choose the right hairstyle to hide protruding ears or visually adjust the shape of your eyes, nose, lips. Probably, many have heard or watched the series "Don't Be Born Beautiful" with Nelly Uvarova in the title role. In life, she is a beautiful young woman, but on the set her appearance was changed for the worse so that the operator who looked "at the light" did not believe that this ugly actress could be turned into at least a more or less pretty girl. When everyone was summoned to the site without makeup, he simply did not recognize her. In the film, one can trace the transformation of an ugly woman into a beautiful and successful woman. If you cannot create an image yourself, then seek help from stylists, makeup artists and hairdressers.
Step 4
Love yourself. Pay attention to what you know how to do, to your best qualities, stop thinking only about what is wrong in you.
Don't tell yourself that you can't do something. If for some reason you cannot do it yourself, then you can ask someone who can help about it. You buy flour in the store, although you did not grow grain. Everyone does what they do well.
Step 5
In fact, the complexes do not appear on their own. In childhood, we hear what adults and other children tell us, when we still cannot objectively assess our appearance and character. A negative image, created from scraps of other people's words, is fixed in the mind. And already as an adult you suffer from someone's imposed "loser" program. It can and should be changed. Write on a piece of paper all the bad things that have been said about you. And draw a portrait of a person who would fit all these traits. When you do this, write the opposite statement next to each item. This is how you will create a new program for yourself, where there will be only positive space.
Step 6
If you lacked the love of your loved ones in childhood, then try to mentally replay those joyless moments when you wanted to be hugged, sorry. Imagine that you can comfort the little child you were before, tell him that he is the best and the most beloved. When you manage to maintain a sense of peace and tranquility in your soul, your life will begin to change for the better.
Step 7
If you cannot cope with your complexes on your own, seek the advice of a psychologist. There is no shame in this. It’s much worse if you treat yourself with contempt and shame all your life, although everything can be fixed.
