In psychology, the concept of “sacrifice complex” is interpreted as the self-denial of the individual for the good of others, in the name of loved ones. A person seeks to receive love in this way, not knowing other ways. At the same time, the victim often hates those for whom, in fact, he renounces himself. Such an internal state is burdensome, suppresses individuality, deprives the colors of life. You can get rid of the victim complex only by seriously working on yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
Stop complaining, feeling sorry for yourself, and telling everyone about your misfortunes. Realize that this is a totally useless exercise, because complaining constantly does not solve your problems. And the more you feel sorry for yourself, the more your inner indecision and disbelief in your strength grows. Practice: Set a day for yourself (at least half a day) during which you will never complain or regret yourself. If you succeed - praise yourself, because you have already become stronger. If it doesn't work, try again and again. Soon you yourself will notice that the attitude of others towards you has changed, you will begin to be respected. Not immediately, not in an instant, but - they will certainly start.
Step 2
Realize the fact: everything that happens in your life is the work of your own hands. Only you and no one else can decide who and what you should be - a strong, self-sufficient and self-confident woman or a chronic sufferer, who is always bad, having a miserable look and a dull expression on her face.
Step 3
Do not do for other people, even those closest to you, what they can do themselves. Infinite kindness towards others is undoubtedly good, but not unlimited. Do not take on other people's responsibilities, by this you encourage their laziness and provoke arrogance and rudeness, and not love and recognition that you are counting on. Most likely, very soon you will begin to annoy the people for whom you are trying with your actions, and a little later, they will begin … to wipe their feet about you. Think about it.
Step 4
Focus on the positive aspects of life. Alas, it is impossible to live without problems, but learning to treat them as unpleasant but surmountable life phenomena is quite within the power of even a weak person. In addition, any obstacles are designed to strengthen the character, and not destroy the personality. Do not succumb to the kinks of fate, try to maintain the integrity of nature and individuality. Instead of worrying about temporary difficulties and future setbacks, think about what is good in your life. And it must be there, you just need to want to see and appreciate.
Step 5
If all your efforts to get rid of the victim complex have not brought positive results, see a psychoanalyst or a good psychologist. In no case do not leave everything as it is, do not complicate your life even more, do not suppress your own individuality. Do not become someone else's complement for which you have to sacrifice yourself. Remember that you are, first of all, a person. Qualified specialists will certainly help you, but only on one condition - if you yourself are determined to change, if you yourself really want to part with the position of a victim.
