A drinking person is a misfortune for the whole family. Often, the misbehavior of parents, friends and close relatives only aggravates the situation. It is necessary to act confidently, tough and ruthlessly - the well-being of the whole family depends on it.
Instructions
Step 1
It is necessary to stop taking responsibility for the actions of the person who abuses alcohol. Alcoholics often borrow money from people they know, and their relatives consider it possible to give these sums, taking pity on the sick person. Stop paying off other people's debts, making excuses for unworthy behavior in front of friends and acquaintances, calling your superiors and inventing stories of non-existent diseases. The sooner you give the alcoholic an opportunity to realize the consequences of his actions, the sooner he will be able to feel personal responsibility for his life.
Step 2
Don't put pressure on him. Shouts, threats, regular psychological pressure lead to the opposite result - a person begins to withdraw into himself, hide his feelings, lie and get out. Talk calmly, judiciously, and only when he is sober.
Step 3
Make a clear distinction between what is acceptable and what is unacceptable. In an ultimatum form, designate a list of actions that, being performed by him in any condition, will lead to a response on your part - leaving, depriving of material support, calling security officials, etc. A person should be aware that any action causes opposition. Be tough and confident, always deliver on your promises and stick to your position.
Step 4
Create an appropriate social circle. Call for help from friends, family, and acquaintances whose opinions the alcoholic listens to. It is useful to arrange meetings and conversations with people who have overcome alcohol addiction - a positive experience is always encouraging.
Step 5
Be prepared to see a doctor. It is very useful to have the necessary contacts of clinics and individual doctors at hand - you have to organize everything quickly and efficiently. Gather information about the methods of treatment and think carefully about everything - you need to choose the option that is acceptable from your point of view, consult a specialist in advance and enlist his support.
Step 6
Try to calm down. Stop blaming yourself for what is happening or that you are not active enough - you cannot force a person to heal until he himself wants to. Take care of yourself and your family - take antidepressants, anti-anxiety medications as needed.
