The attitude of some people around you may not be entirely sincere. If you feel you are being used, you need to take action to change the situation. Don't allow yourself to be treated like a consumer.
Self love
As painful as it may be, sometimes the reason that an individual is used lies in his behavior. Some people themselves admit a consumer attitude towards themselves, and then they are surprised that they are not considered anything.
Start with yourself. First of all, you yourself must love and respect yourself, put your own interests above all else. Some attackers, feeling the uncertainty of another person, his softness, calmly step over him and use for their own purposes.
But if you show that you are not going to put up with this state of affairs, that you have pride, self-esteem, and enough moral strength to defend your interests, the pressure on you disappears.
Say no
Maybe you are just a trouble-free person, and those around you take advantage of it. When ordinary kindness is hypertrophied into a pathological desire to please everyone, to please everyone and not offend anyone, this quality can harm its owner.
Learn to refuse. Say no whenever the request is inconvenient, inappropriate, or hurts your own interests. Do not be tormented by conscience or fear of losing a person's disposition. The one who treats you sincerely kindly will not change his opinion of you. But the individuals who were kept next to you only by your reliability will be visible immediately.
Break the relationship
It is simply not worth communicating with those people who treat you like a consumer. Why do you need such acquaintances or friends who do not really love you, but only use you for their own benefit.
It happens that a similar situation builds up in a romantic relationship. Believe that this is not your person, and you will not be happy with him. If it's not about your internal attitudes, then you just came across an insincere person who can step over a partner or partner to meet his needs. You will also meet the person who will give, not just take.
It happens that at work all complex and voluminous tasks are dumped on one employee, since he resignedly refers to the increase in workload and still works with high quality in a professional sense. If you understand that you are being used at work, it may be worth talking to your boss about your promotion.
Explain that your list of responsibilities has grown, your competency has increased, and that you are looking forward to a new system of motivation. If the manager does not consider it necessary to appreciate your work at its true worth, it may be time to look for another job.
