Shyness can bring a lot of problems. A person becomes withdrawn, afraid to get to know people, it can be a serious task for him to just ask someone something. Even knowing about this trait of his character, he very often cannot cope with it.
Instructions
Step 1
To successfully combat shyness, you need to understand its causes. A person is afraid to approach someone and ask about something - why? What exactly scares him? Most often it is the fear of appearing ridiculous, ugly, rejected or ridiculed. From this we can conclude that it is necessary to fight the cause of shyness, namely, to get rid of fears.
Step 2
Imagine that a young man wants to meet a girl (or vice versa), but is afraid to take the first step. In this case, he needs to soberly assess the situation. Approaching her, he may be rejected, but another option - he can be met and favorably disposed. Without coming up, he does not know the result, and then he loses it for sure, because the girl does not even know about his intentions, and therefore can simply find herself another gentleman. This suggests that fear implements the most negative scenarios for the development of the situation.
Step 3
Overcoming fear is not that difficult. If you find yourself in a similar situation, just imagine the worst that could happen. For example, you were rejected, and even publicly laughed at you. Unpleasant? Sure. Can you survive? Certainly. Just accept the most negative option as a fait accompli, come to terms with it and - go to the girl you like. You are already prepared for the worst, so nothing can scare you.
Step 4
If in such situations you are ready for the most unpleasant scenario, you will notice an interesting thing - your negative predictions, as a rule, do not come true, and your shyness turns out to be not so strong. Each time you will acquire more and more self-confidence, and this is because you are already internally ready for defeat, it stops scaring you.
Step 5
Very often, the cause of shyness is anxiety about their appearance. Imagine a situation: evening, you are walking home along a crowded street. It seems to you that everyone is looking at you, you lower your gaze, blush, accelerate your pace. The reality is that practically no one is looking at you - unless in order not to collide with you. Evening, people are rushing home, they don't care about you. Therefore, everything that you think about your appearance is exclusively your inner complexes.
Step 6
You should deal with fears about your appearance using the methods described above. Do you consider yourself ugly or ugly? Okay, so be it - take it for granted and come to terms with this state of affairs. The question is, what should you do now, how should you behave? Hide from everyone? Walk with downcast eyes? Or, on the contrary, pacing with your head held high, not giving a damn about everything they think of you? Let this be your challenge to others, stop hiding. If you are "ugly," then let everyone see your "ugliness." The worst thing has happened, you have nothing to fear.
Step 7
A little time will pass, and you will be surprised to see that people are not at all afraid of your "ugliness". On the contrary, you have a lot more friends, people began to reach out to you. Moreover, no one would even think of calling you an ugly person. And all because you have an absolutely normal appearance, and thanks to the described practices, you managed to overcome shyness and become stronger. And strong people always attract those around them.
