It so happens that having achieved a goal, a person gets upset. It turns out he wanted something different. Latent motives and unconscious goals, which all people have, have a great influence on events in life. To avoid disappointment, you need to learn how to manage desires and unconscious impulses, as well as be able to identify the true goal.
Instructions
Step 1
Sometimes it is advisable to simply ask: "What is your goal?", "Why is this necessary?" Ask the person or yourself questions about what will happen when the goal is realized. Is this really what you want? Specify what feelings and emotions you will experience while doing this. Imagine how life will change after achieving the goal.
Step 2
Use clarifying questions. Try to guess nuances, small details, shape, colors, size, duration, and other concrete and tangible details that can help you present your goal more clearly. The clearer and more definite the result, the faster you will achieve what you want.
Step 3
Pay attention to the other side of the coin. Often a person sees only the positive aspects of achieving a goal. In fact, almost any action or action can have unpleasant, shadowy aspects that you acquire along with what you want. Very often they are a traumatic factor for the psyche after reaching the goal. If you know about the second side of the coin from the beginning, you can adjust the path to finding what you want or the dream itself.
Step 4
Focus on what you are doing, not on the conversation. Actions will show true goals better than words. You can dream and make plans, but you can't hit your finger in order to realize your plans. If this is the case in your life, then it is not a real purpose that is hatching in your thoughts.
And, conversely, by your actions you can understand the direction in which you are moving. If a woman declares that she wants to get married, but in fact changes partners one by one, then the voiced goal is not real.
Step 5
Create a goal tree. This is a structured diagram where the end result will be at the top and where you are now at the bottom. The branches of the tree will show steps towards the desired or subgoal. Having made such a drawing, you will be able to see in more detail the ideal you are striving for, calculate the required strength and time to implement your plan.
Step 6
Do something to reach your intermediate goal. Track the result. If this is what you wanted, move on in that direction. This method will help you avoid mistakes and disappointments.
