Parting with a loved one is always difficult. However, a complete breakup of a relationship often makes it even more painful. It is much easier and easier to disperse in a civilized manner, while maintaining friendly relations.
Is friendship possible after parting
There can be no definite answer to this question. Much depends on the purpose for which you or your ex-lover want to maintain a warm relationship. Most often this happens when one has feelings left, and he hopes that friendship will help restore his former love. It is possible that one of the partners is trying to make the appearance of external well-being, showing mutual acquaintances that they were able to part with dignity. But there is also the possibility that both respect and value each other and actually want to be friends.
In the first two options, it is unlikely that something will come out, because it will only be an appearance of friendship, but if you have really warm feelings for each other, everything is possible. In fact, contrary to popular belief, true friendships often develop between former lovers.
For this to happen, you need to break up correctly. If the break occurs on the initiative of one partner, then it is unlikely that it will work to maintain friendly relations. Here, there will be more likely friendship "out of pity", when one loves, and the other gives him friendly feelings in return. And, on the contrary, a mutual deliberate decision to break off relations can be the beginning of sincere friendly feelings. It is only important to clarify everything before parting, eliminating all the innuendo.
It is very important not to forget that the past must remain in the past. This should apply to both your relationship and communication with mutual friends. You should not devote them to all the intricacies of your new relationship. Also, before you start friends with a former lover, think about the fact that this may prevent you from building a personal life with a new person.
How to maintain friendship after breaking up
Try not to make hasty decisions. Subdued emotions can make you regret being overly categorical. When parting, do it with minimal losses for yourself. Be more practical, because, after parting in an amicable way, you will find a good friend, whom you may turn to sometime for help.
Take a look at your ex from the side. If you are interested with him, he is a good conversationalist, a reliable person, then there is no point in giving up his company in the future.
Try to approach the gap constructively. Gather your strength and talk about the need to part and the reasons that pushed you to this. Listen to all the arguments of your partner. If the decision to break up is made mutually, then solve all everyday problems and be sure to share your ideas about your future relationship, without giving false hopes. Be direct whether you want to meet later or just call up occasionally.
Do not hesitate to say goodbye warm words to your partner, thank him for the experience, for the good time and relationship. Sincerely wish him happiness and rejoice that he will remain in your life in a new quality. This kind of breakup behavior will make the breakup much less painful.
