Quarrels are different: serious and not so, when both are to blame, or when one of the initiators of the scandal is one. In any case, passions subside, resentments are forgotten, and it's time to put up. In order to do this correctly, it is necessary to determine the cause of the incident and your place in the given production.
Instructions
Step 1
If for one reason or another you turned out to be the same villain (villain) who raised a storm in a glass of water, then like it or not, you will have to apologize. For almost any person with pride and inner core, apologizing is much more difficult than forgiving. But this will only make it easier for everyone.
Step 2
If you are not ready to approach, you better not do it. Such an apology will not only not bring relief, but also leave an unpleasant aftertaste. From the outside, as a rule, it looks like a handout. Only sincere apologies coming from the heart will help to correct the situation and establish spiritual closeness. The person should feel that you are really sorry and did not want to harm him.
Step 3
A mirror situation is when you are hurt. If the offender has come to you with a confession, let the person speak, do not make a deplorable expression. Try to stand in his place and understand what guided him in this situation. Remember how difficult it can be to come up first when you were wrong. Usually, if a person comes by himself, he already regrets. Your task is to listen, understand, accept and forgive.
Step 4
Forgiveness, like apology, must come from the heart. There is no need to forgive sins. We are not all saints and, one way or another, throughout our lives we are on different sides of the barricades. However, the cases are different, and it is worth forgiving only what is possible to forgive. But at the level of emotions, one must learn to let go of any situation. First of all, for my own sake.
Step 5
The most common situation is when both are to blame. In this case, it does not matter at all who will take the first step. The most important thing is to meet each other. Be able to listen to each other, accept the position of the opponent and find the strength to admit your own guilt. After analyzing the situation, try not to return to this question anymore and fulfill the promises made in words. Otherwise, the level of trust will begin to decline with each new quarrel, and it will be more and more difficult to go to reconciliation.
