In order to defeat your anger, you need to clearly and clearly realize its harmful effects. Suppressing your anger is just as harmful for a person as pouring it out for the following reason: suppressing anger does not mean getting rid of it, anger remains inside you, destroying not only your soul, but the entire body as a whole, provoking the development of many diseases - from the nervous system to the digestive system. You should not vent your anger out, because each time such outbursts will gain strength, due to the progressive habit of relaxation.
Instructions
Step 1
In cases where this feeling engulfs a person for reasons beyond his control, it is best to accept the situation as it is, since you still cannot change anything. You can only change your attitude to the problem.
Step 2
But in many cases, knowing how to deal with the situation that triggered your rage will help you. For example, you took out a loan from a bank, and the interest on the loan turned out to be much higher than you expected. The first thing you feel is anger at the bank employees. It is them that you blame for the fact that you will have to pay much more than you expected. This is the position of the victim, and it will not lead to anything good. Try to look at the reasons for your anger as the author of the problem. After all, when you signed an agreement with the bank, you inattentively read all the conditions set forth in it, which means that you created this situation yourself … and your anger is simply groundless. The ability to move from the position of the victim to the position of the author will save you from outbursts of anger, bad mood and irritability. Plus, you will learn a good lesson for the future.
Step 3
Many psychologists recommend counting to ten in case of anger. Such a primitive, but popular method will distract you from the first, most emotional impulses, and then it will be easier to cope with irritation.
Step 4
A more effective way is to get distracted by thoughts of what needs to be done today, or even better, to approach the issue with a sense of humor. Laughter (not bitter, sarcastic) and anger are incompatible and contradictory emotions, therefore, to evoke positive emotions in oneself means closing the road to anger and anger. Finding funny sides in situations that annoy you is an art that anyone can comprehend, you just need to tune in to it correctly.
Step 5
With the right approach, over time, you will feel that outbursts of rage become weaker and less frequent. Empty trifles, which until recently infuriated you, will seem to you not worthy of attention and expenditure of your mental strength. Anger recedes when you control it, analyze your behavior. Reason, sanity, and a sense of humor, which you need to resort to in crisis situations, will help you with this.
