Relaxing and taking life lightly is the most common advice given in stressful situations. Unfortunately, advisers rarely leave a recipe for how to achieve harmony in the soul. Perhaps they believe that replacing mentality is not much different from replacing a burned-out light bulb. In fact, this is a long process that lasts at least two years.
Instructions
Step 1
A person's psychological changes are pushed by internal conflicts, stressful periods of life and overcoming situations that seem insoluble. When a critical mass of troubles has accumulated, the process of personal change begins. This raises the question of whom to focus on? It is this moment when a person mentally, orally or in writing expresses his need to look at life easier, and is the starting point for a small revolution inside a single head.
Step 2
There are several models, following which a person acquires a philosophical view of the world around him. You can accept a certain system of views and at the same time find your own social capsule - like-minded people. For example, accept the doctrine of karma and go to a yoga school, or become interested in Tao and enroll in a martial arts club. It should be remembered that on the basis of ancient teachings there are organizations with a dubious reputation and a completely unambiguous desire to siphon money from the clientele. Therefore, many people prefer not to contact organizations, but to look for a personal guru among their acquaintances or on the Internet, chatting on thematic forums, communities or simply meeting on Skype. Here you can find the same dangers - the mentor may turn out to be a manipulator with criminal inclinations or just a person who solves his psychological problems at the expense of other people. For example, he regrets that he divorced his wife and therefore convinces others to divorce too. But it really doesn't matter if these people are good or bad. They are a mirror into which a person who wants to change looks. Subconsciously, he analyzes their behavior and looks for his own way.
Step 3
Formulating your own philosophy is the third step. After you lose interest in like-minded people or gurus, the changes become more and more evident. For example, defense mechanisms are turned on: a person who was previously dependent on the opinions of others is not afraid to break contact in the event of emotional pressure. He learns to mark the boundaries of his personal space and suppresses any intrusion into his territory. Or he looks at the world through the prism of a certain emotion - love, compassion or gratitude to higher powers for every minute lived. Some people drastically change their circle of interests, communication - and feel that they have found their place in life. And this adjusts to a pacifying mood.
