We make promises to ourselves all the time. We are trying to convince that we will start learning English, we will run in the morning, we will sign up for the gym, we will stop consuming sweets in large quantities. So what's going on? We are not doing anything. What can you do to make the promises you made to yourself come true?
At work, we try to complete the assigned tasks on time. But there are also things that are gradually forgotten. Because their fulfillment was promised only to itself.
Accordingly, you can come to an agreement with your conscience and postpone them for later. But at the same time, self-confidence suffers first of all. How to be in such a situation? There are several effective ways to help keep your promise to yourself.
Increase the relevance
When we make a promise to ourselves, we need to take it more seriously. Like an oath, a vow, a commitment. There should not be even the slightest loophole that would help us to abandon the task before us. We keep the word given to another person. We must treat ourselves the same way.
Change the essence of the promise. Make it so that it cannot be revised or canceled. Create a punishment for yourself. Or the reward that will be received for completing the task.
Or follow the advice of Tony Robbins. Just raise your standards. Become the person who always keeps their promises. Especially if they were given to oneself.
The task must be doable
There is nothing wrong with your own desires. However, they involve certain actions. Keeping promises requires a clear plan. See exactly what steps need to be taken to cope with the task at hand.
It’s not good for you to give yourself a word, but you don’t know what you need to do to keep it. Learning a foreign language in a week is impossible. Start running 40 km at once - this happens only in fairy tales. Be adequate in your desires.
There should be no excuses
What promises have you already failed to keep? What was the reason for rejecting your given word? It is necessary to clearly understand why you decided to give up on the task set before yourself. All excuses should be written down on paper. Through this, one can find opposition to excuses.
And they will appear constantly. After all, our brain "does not like" to perform new, unfamiliar actions. It is programmed to repeat the usual manipulations. It takes time and willpower to reprogram it.
Made a promise to yourself? Then treat it like a contract. If nothing has changed, assign a penalty for not completing the task set before yourself.
Looking ahead and arguing with a friend
Numerous studies by scientists have proven that we will perform a task only if we have a clear idea of what results it will bring. Made a promise to yourself? Think daily about the reward that awaits in completing the task. Visualize, imagine. This will help you control your behavior and deal with excuses successfully.
When there is a person who is monitoring your actions, you will not be able to postpone the promise made to yourself. Want to sign up for a gym? Find a company or pay a coach. The thought that they are waiting for you in training will not allow you to refuse going to the gym.
Do you want to learn English? Agree with a friend that if by a certain date you do not start speaking in another language, then you will give him a specific amount of money. Or do something that you don't enjoy. This method will push you to fulfill your given word.
Do you have an Instagram? Tell your subscribers that you will be running every day by posting a report. This is also a great way to motivate you to keep from forgetting about promises.
As a conclusion
Remember, the best promise is a promise that has been kept. It doesn't matter who you gave your word to. Try to be more mindful when setting goals for yourself. Do not promise anything even to yourself until you fully understand the issue.
It is necessary to clearly understand why you are setting a goal for yourself. What results do you expect, and what should change in your life. And only then can you make a promise to yourself.
