Even a self-confident person needs the support and encouragement of loved ones from time to time so that he can be convinced of his own worth and continue on the path to the goal with renewed vigor. But what if support becomes a kind of insurance, without which a person does not take a step?
Instructions
Step 1
Most people have friends or family to whom they can turn in difficult times for help. If you do this too often, then the person begins to increasingly use them to solve problems or to get advice, becoming more indecisive and notorious. And if the decision made turns out to be a failure, it is convenient to blame others for it, not yourself. Before seeking advice, try to independently consider and weigh the possible options for your further actions and determine which of them you are more inclined to.
Step 2
Learn to say a firm yes or no, even if you are faced with a minor choice. For example, buying a gift for your wife or lover, choosing a tie "to match the color of your eyes", etc. Replace phrases that sound with a note of uncertainty with more decisive ones: instead of “if it works out, then …” say “it will be done”. Forget the words “I don’t know,” “I’m not sure,” “I think,” otherwise they will provoke your fears.
Step 3
Exercise to form the inner core. Choose the sport you want to do on your own (without advice or approval). Training should not be a burden, on the contrary, it should become your incentive. If you choose, say, endurance running, you will quickly learn to rely on your own strength to overcome the next milestone and get to the finish line.
Step 4
Help other people. Show concern and attention to loved ones. This will help you become more independent, because in this case it is you who become the support. Either way, you will have to take decisive action for the help to be real. When you see the results of your efforts, you will feel your own worth, and this feeling will motivate you to further self-improvement.
