Memories of a person from the past can be very intrusive. They do not let sleep for a long time and wake up from sleep at night. Thoughts are busy with memories and obsessive assumptions about "What if everything were different." The obsession with these thoughts begins to irritate and interfere with building your future. At some point, there is a desire to get rid of these obsessions. But how to do it?
Instructions
Step 1
The reason for the obsession with memories of a significant person for us is the incompleteness of the action. You have communicated in the past and have experienced pleasant moments, but for some reason your life paths diverged. And the emotional attachment to the person remained, and therefore thoughts regularly arise about the possibility of renewing the relationship. You can stop recalling past events by completing the action.
Step 2
Write this person a letter. Let it not reach the addressee. It is important that in the letter you are as frank as possible about your feelings. Write down all your thoughts about how dear this person was to you, how you felt around him. Tell him in a letter how your life is going now and how it has changed since the breakup. This letter must be written down on paper. As you record, you work on your feelings. For a long time, they accumulated within you, but did not find a way out. Now you have set them free.
Step 3
We tend to idealize people from the past. Grievances and negative character traits are gradually forgotten. Only pleasant moments of communication appear in my memory. To destroy the ideal, try to find out about this person through acquaintances or through social networks. It is likely that after collecting information about the object of memories, you will realize that it is far from your ideas. Life moves forward and it changes people. Now we are noticeably different from those who were 5-10 years ago. Sometimes it turns out that people with whom we happily communicated in our youth become completely uninteresting to us in adulthood.
Step 4
Focus on your present. The past should not weigh on you, since it has already happened and cannot be returned. Let it be left behind. You are here and now. This position is the key to a successful life. The ability to drop the burden of the days gone by in time gives space for action.
Step 5
Free your material world from oppressive memories. Get rid of all things that remind you of the person. If you still have his personal belongings, photographs, gifts and postcards, collect them in a box and hide them away or send them to the trash can. Don't let the things of the past bother your soul.
Step 6
If the breakup happened recently, try a change of scenery. The first weeks are the hardest to survive. Ask for a visit to your parents or friends. Take a vacation and go on a short trip. Let new pleasant experiences enter your life. Take a new breath, because life is just beginning. Parting always opens up new opportunities. It returns to thinking about the meaning of life and the prospects for development. There is a reason to carry out a general cleaning in the most inaccessible corners of your personality and get long-forgotten resources from there.
