It is very difficult to keep an offense in oneself, but not everyone can forgive it. You just haven't been taught how to do it right from your childhood. But if you manage to let go, forget the situation, life changes in the best way.
Resentment in a person
A person is used to accumulating claims to others. Everyone is constantly blaming someone for what is happening: politics, economics, boss, parents. And all this is a manifestation of inner tension. And there are times when betrayal or deception simply eats a person from the inside, and he wants to remove this feeling, but it does not work.
Modern psychology offers several ways to forgive. It is very important not to accumulate resentment, but immediately throw it out, if you feel bad, do not be silent, but say everything to the offender in the eyes. You can scream, swear, or cry. People who express emotions in this way live longer, they have fewer heart problems. They immediately throw out the pain without collecting it inside. Learn this because even if you remove all the grievances, it will be important not to accumulate new ones.
Exercises for Forgiveness
To forgive a person completely, you need to tell him everything. It is necessary to pick up everything that has been accumulated and speak it out. Of course, if you go to tell your parents, friends, or a loved one, nothing good will come of it. But all this can be done in writing. Stay alone, grab a piece of paper, and start writing to the person you want to forgive. Tell him what you wanted, blame him, criticize, call names. Write as honestly as possible about what he did, what pain he caused you. Of course, this will cause tears, but do not be afraid of them, they do not interfere with writing further. Try to spill everything out on paper.
The second stage of forgiveness is also a letter. In it, write in what you yourself are to blame. Usually, the process of resentment is not one-sided, and you know that some of the blame in the past is on you as well. Write to him that you yourself were not always right, ask for forgiveness for this. Be sincere, let the letter become the most important dialogue in the entire history of your relationship. This text will be easier to write than the past, you will see your shortcomings. In the end, be sure to forgive yourself for all this. Write a couple of lines to yourself, make sure that then you could not do otherwise.
The third letter is a conclusion exercise. They are written as if you want to give it away. Write a letter forgiving. Say that you understand the person, that you do not hold grudge against him. It will be like mixing the first two letters. Tell about yourself, about your experiences and actions, express your complaints to him in what he did. And you will notice that by the time the letter ends, this person will no longer bother you so much, thoughts about him will cease to worry you. These letters are enough to completely forgive. But it is only important to create them from a pure heart. After everything is done, it is better to burn the lyrics.
