Some skeptics claim that friendship between ladies is a myth. Those representatives of the fair sex who have for more than one year have a faithful and proven friend who have proven their loyalty will certainly not agree with them. Nevertheless, even the strongest friendship is sometimes tested - including in the form of banal quarrels. What should those who have personally encountered a similar phenomenon do?
Instructions
Step 1
Talk to your friend honestly. Most of the quarrels occur on the basis of understatement and misunderstanding of each other. Before talking, make sure you are calm enough and not in the mood to keep swearing. Put yourself in the shoes of your counterpart mentally, really try to understand her opinion. Communicate from the position of not a formidable prosecutor (even if much of the blame for the spat lies not with you), but a loving, understanding friend. Perhaps as a result of such communication, you realize that in reality there are no serious problems between you, and previous disagreements are based solely on your mutual groundless assumptions.
Step 2
Do not involve anyone around you in your showdown. Don't complain to strangers about how horrible your friend is supposedly - even if she really seriously offended you. If your task is to really make peace with her, by such actions you will only deepen the contradictions between you and simply give outsiders a reason for the next gossip. Remember: this is a matter for the two of you alone, and therefore only you should search for solutions to contradictions and overcome differences. It is impossible to interfere with such problems: they are only outside observers, and not participants in these relations.
Step 3
If friendship is really dear to you, do not necessarily seek to find out whose fault it was in the quarrel. Surely you both misbehaved. In a spat, only one person is rarely to blame, so do not give up your share of responsibility for such an unpleasant situation - even if the main reason for the quarrel seems to be some action or a remark from your friend. Attempts to find the main "criminal" and "victim" among the two of you will only provide you with another explosion of negative emotions and will not be productive.
Step 4
Learn to draw conclusions from each such conflict situation, and not from the position of someone's fault, but from the point of view of preventing the very possibility of such quarrels in the future. Together with your friend, try to eliminate the real cause of the conflict (of course, if possible), or at least not focus on it. For example, if you have disagreements because one of you is late for the next meeting, call in advance on the eve of such a rendezvous and remind you of its specific time.
Step 5
If an extremely serious offense of a friend, which you cannot forgive, led to a quarrel, break your friendship with her. Perhaps both of you have simply changed so much that you cannot continue to exist at too close a psychological distance, as you previously did. However, before breaking up, find the strength to have a final conversation with your now almost ex-girlfriend. Both of you deserve to finally sort things out. Nevertheless, no matter how offended you are, conduct communication without raising your emotional level. Still, a certain period of strong friendship connects you with your counterpart, and therefore, in the name of preserving the memory of those bright moments, try to part on a good note.
