The feeling of panic is known to so many people. It not only poisons life, but can also endanger it - in panic, a person loses the ability to adequately respond to the situation. How to learn composure, calmness and self-control?
Instructions
Step 1
The main cause of the feeling of panic is human selfishness. Someone will disagree with this, but if you look at the root of the problem, you can understand that the cause of all fears and worries is the human "I". You need a reason to panic - for example, you are afraid that you look bad and worried about what they think of you. But if you were deeply indifferent to who and what would think or say about you, there would be no panic. Hence the conclusion - it is necessary to change your attitude towards what surrounds you.
Step 2
Don't worry about someone thinking about you. For example, you are walking down the street and it seems to you that everyone is looking at you, evaluating your appearance and clothes. You blush, get embarrassed, lower your gaze, speed up your step … If this situation is familiar to you, start changing yourself from it. To begin with, take on faith that passers-by are deeply indifferent to you, everyone is busy with their thoughts and deeds. Are you interested in those people who come to meet you? Hardly. In the same way, they do not pay any attention to you. They are indifferent to you, they do not look at you. And if they do, it’s only in order not to bump into you.
Step 3
Learn to feel relaxed on the street. Never rush, let your step be calm and measured. If before you closed yourself off from people, now change the situation - start looking at them yourself. In your gaze there should be just interest, curiosity, but not appreciation. Don't judge, just watch. There is a secret here: if you look at a person with interest, he will never behave aggressively towards you. But it should be just a lively interest, the curiosity of a child who learns the world. This exercise will help you open up, get rid of inner tightness. If, in response to your gaze, a person looks at you, in no case lower your eyes hastily, do not hide. Just give a subtle smile and move on.
Step 4
Make a list of what bothers you, makes you nervous. Work, relationships with colleagues, bosses, friends, spouse or spouse … Find anything that makes you panic. Then, methodically, right down the list, start thinking about what will happen if your worst fears are confirmed. For example, you are afraid that you might be fired from your job. Okay, imagine getting fired. Will this situation be the end of the world for you? After all, no, you can always find yourself another job. Better or worse, you can. So there is no point in torturing yourself and worrying. Do your job well, but don't worry about it. And so on for all items on the list. Keep in mind that many fears do not have to be realized. For example, you are afraid that your child may be hit by a car, gas may explode in the kitchen, etc. etc. It is necessary to get rid of such stupid fears first of all.
Step 5
Remember that the worst part of you is afraid, nervous, worried, panicked. Don't feed it, don't support it. Avoid bad thoughts intentionally. Feel your strength, the ability to overcome any adversity. Try to be optimistic - hope for the best, but don't worry when things don't go the way you hoped. Lower the level of your ambitions and aspirations, this will help you to free yourself from a huge layer of experiences. Walk more in nature, go to theaters, museums, read good books. Concentrate on the good, and you will see firsthand how your life will turn for the better.
