One of the most unpleasant and painful trials that can befall a person is to be disappointed in who was truly dear to him. For example, in a close friend. It would seem that the friendship was real, time-tested. And suddenly - blatant meanness, betrayal on his part. The frustration caused by this can be so bitter, painful and intense that it sometimes escalates to severe depression. In a literal sense, hands down!
Instructions
Step 1
Instill in yourself: this is a big nuisance, a hard, bitter lesson, but not a reason to get angry and not trust anyone. Yes, the person whom you considered your friend acted meanly, unworthily. But this does not mean that all people are capable of doing the same.
Step 2
Find comfort in folk wisdom. “A friend is known in trouble” - as it is well and precisely said. Think: he acted badly with you, when everything seemed to be calm, nothing threatened. And if there was a serious danger? If in the full sense of the word it was about life and death? How would he behave in such a situation? Surely I would have left you to fend for themselves, and at that moment when you were especially counting on his help!
Step 3
Do not "dwell" on this trouble, do not torment yourself 24 hours a day with reflections, fortune-telling: "Well, why did he do that!" You definitely won't get any better from this.
Step 4
If you are a believer, find the strength and courage to forgive your former friend for the mental pain caused to you, as it should be according to religious canons. But “forgiving” doesn't mean “making friends again”. Because betrayal under any circumstances will remain a betrayal. If he sincerely repents and asks for forgiveness, think about what to do. It's up to you, and only you.
Step 5
Try to distract yourself from heavy thoughts in every possible way. The best remedy for this is an activity that consumes time and energy. We can talk about the main job, and about hobbies, hobbies, any charity work.
Step 6
If possible, go somewhere, at least for a short time, change the environment. This will help you numb the pain of frustration.
