In any team there are people who like to complain about life, thereby attracting attention to themselves and causing sympathy. Over time, whiners sit on your neck and start using you. Therefore, it is important to identify such people in time and learn how to communicate with them.
The first thing to explain to yourself when dealing with such people is to stop feeling sorry for them. Whiners are people who by their "itching" take away your positive energy. Probably, many have noticed that after communicating with them, their mood worsens and various chronic diseases are exacerbated.
This is a kind of vampire people. They will constantly draw energy from you, complaining about life, you yourself will not notice how you will turn into a "vest", doing all the work for them and constantly regretting.
When dealing with whiners, you need to follow these rules.
- Don't be sorry. During the initial communication, the whiner begins to "test" you, whether you are suitable as a donor and to approach with complaints about life. You should answer briefly, listen absent-mindedly, you can transfer the conversation to another topic.
- Start complaining yourself. You can start complaining about life yourself. To every phrase of the whiner to answer with his own, often, the whiner, feeling that he has nothing to "profit from" the complaint stops.
- Limit communication. If you feel uncomfortable communicating with this person, then try to keep communication to a minimum, and contact only on necessary issues.
It is not easy to communicate with this type of people, especially if it is your close relative.
