Some people dream of getting rid of shyness and stop treating communication with people as torture. If you overcome shyness, life will change for the better, and many problems will disappear.
Instructions
Step 1
Stop obsessing over literally everything - from how best to answer a question to what expression would be appropriate in a given conversation. It is not a good idea to communicate without interruption, without allowing the interlocutor to insert words. But pondering the answer for a minute and a half, shyly shifting from foot to foot, is also not the best option. Relax and think not about what impression you or your speech are making, but about the subject of the conversation.
Step 2
Communicate more often, because you get any knowledge in practice. If speaking is a challenge for you, start small. For example, to a colleague's greeting, do not just answer in monosyllables, but ask about the weather, the result of yesterday's match, or some other trifle. It will gradually become easier to keep up the conversation. You will learn not only to fully answer questions, but also to ask them.
Step 3
Use gestures and facial expressions actively. This will help the other person to understand what your mood is or how you react to what is said. Call the participants in the conversation by name more often, look into your eyes when addressing, and not at the floor or wall, because the latter causes discomfort among the interviewees. Smile more (sincerely, not tortured) and do not be afraid to joke even in a serious conversation. This will help defuse the situation.
Step 4
Read and learn quotes from great people or just funny stories and anecdotes. With their help, you can easily and easily smooth out the pause in the conversation and make your interlocutors smile. For situations in which you lose your composure (a visit to the boss's office, for example), prepare a few phrases-templates that you can say when the rest of the thoughts fly out of your head.
