Even a strong and confident person may need support from loved ones. Words of encouragement are appropriate when a person is confused, afraid to do something, hesitates. But it is not enough to find the right phrase, it is also important to pronounce it correctly.
Instructions
Step 1
Encourage your loved ones instead of rebuking them. For example, if a child did his homework poorly and received an unsatisfactory grade, you should not yell at him, but say softly that next time he will certainly achieve more. Such words are stronger than scolding and reproaches and more often lead to the desired result.
Step 2
Speak words of approval lovingly. Never say: "Everything will be fine with you, you will cope with everything yourself, just leave me alone." Be involved, don't get angry and don't be indifferent. It is better not to support a person at all than to say kind words to him in an evil voice in the hope that he will lag behind.
Step 3
Ask if you need help, if you can do something to fix this unpleasant situation. Ask questions, setting the person up in advance for a favorable answer. For example, say: "Everything will be great with us, right?" or “Nothing terrible really happened, did it? You can still fix it, right?"
Step 4
Don't forget about non-verbal exposure. Smile, pat the person on the shoulder, hug. The child can be gently held by the hand or patted on the head. Never say a word of encouragement with a sad or angry face. If you smile, the other person will most likely mirror your smile and feel more confident.
Step 5
If you want to cheer up a person who hesitates to take any action, talk about the future, not about the present. For example, if your friend wants to quit smoking, you do not need to draw his attention to negative aspects - spending on cigarettes, bad breath, etc. Better tell him how good it will be when he gets rid of his addiction. Positive phrases can help cheer you up and push you to take action, while negative phrases are more likely to insult and demean.
