No matter how culturally you behave, on the path of life there are often scandalous people who try to unleash a scandal with you and drag you into an unpleasant conversation. Whether at home, at work, in transport or in public places, if you are not prone to scandals, follow simple guidelines that will help protect yourself from scandalous people and preserve your nervous system.
Instructions
Step 1
Psychologists believe that differences are the main reason for expressing dislike and inclination to scandals. It doesn't matter how you differ from the brawler, it can be appearance, voice, demeanor, your success or finances, the main thing is to understand that most often these are not personal reasons, but just a psychological phenomenon. We are afraid and do not accept what is different from us. You need to learn to accept that all people are different. Disarm the scandalous person with your calmness, indifference or positivity.
Step 2
As with many situations, one of the best ways to protect yourself from a brawler is to have a frank conversation. Try to say straight away that you don't like his behavior. Explain that you are not a scandalous person and do not like this way of talking. But, despite the fact that you are not scandalous, you will not tolerate being forced into an unpleasant conversation. Cut off the brawler harshly if possible.
Step 3
Of course, not everyone has the courage and determination to say directly to their face what you don't like, or the situation simply does not allow it. In this case, we use small psychological tricks so as not to harm our own psyche and mood. Try to mentally shrink the screaming brawler and cover him with an empty glass or jar. For more effect, you can make his voice look like a cartoon or a chirp of a bird.
Step 4
Another technique is the construction of walls and partitions. Mentally build a wall between yourself and the scandalous person. It is important that you like this wall and protect you not from the whole world, but only from unpleasant influences.
Step 5
Try to exhibit non-standard behavior. The main thing is that it is appropriate and does not have a negative impact on the brawler. If they start to quarrel with you at home or in the office, you can try to drop something on the floor, ask the brawler for help, or, in extreme cases, shout "fire". This behavior disorients the interlocutor for a few seconds, and in most cases, the scandalous mood disappears. You can also later say that you do not understand anything when someone is shouting.
Step 6
When the situation allows it, just get up and walk away. Having previously told the scandalous person that while he is in this mood, you will not be able to talk. The main thing is to go into the zone of his inaccessibility. If the aggressor is a man, you can simply go to the women's restroom. And remember that if you use this option, you only need to leave when the brawler has completely calmed down.
Step 7
If, to one degree or another, scandals of various kinds occur frequently with you, and you fall under their influence, try to relieve the resulting stress. Use the power of nature, walk more, contemplate, get a houseplant or put a bouquet on the table more often. When taking a shower, think that the water cleanses you, washes away the negativity and fills you with new strength. If the aggressive energy you received is strong, try to channel it in a different direction, switch it to work.
